I knew that guests were bad about weddings, but I didn't realize the extent until we sent out our wedding invitations this past week.
My mom: I've posted before that we're not close. Now that invites have gone out, she asked who was on the guest list. Once I rattled off everyone (there's only about 35 people invited, so it wasn't hard), she replied with, "Oh, I guess I have to stop telling people about it if you're not going to invite them." I have no idea who she told that they could come, but I agreed that that not doing that sounded like a good idea.
My sister: There's a large age gap between us (16 years), so her friends were old enough to baby sit me as a baby, but my family moved away when I was 8 after she was out of the house. So, it's been ~24 years since I've seen them. She thinks that she should get invites for her friends too. Her sales pitch: "I'm sure that they'd bring you a nice present."
I guess that I've never thought of a wedding as a social event where I would even consider bringing other people to. I just think that's weird. I'm just waiting for the next bit of tackiness that comes from the two of them. Maybe I was adopted and don't really know it?
Re: NBSR: Guests of guests at wedding vent
While not "right" - I can see where your mom might kind of be in "show off" mode. KWIM? But clearly she should have talked to you about your expectations, how big of a guest list and if she could invite people!
Your sister...?? WTF?
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Married: August 2012
DD: 9/22/2014
My SIL DEMANDED... and I mean DEMANDED that her husband's parents be invited to the wedding. It was the biggest fight that my husband and I had during our wedding planning process and eventually I gave in and mailed them an invitation. They did the same thing-- RSVPed they were coming and then never showed. WTF? I was furious.
Married: August 2012
DD: 9/22/2014
Yes, why is it always the rude add-ons that end up being no shows?! We invited my mother's cousin and her husband to the wedding. The cousin asked my mother if she could bring her adult daughter and teenaged granddaughter. I said okay, just because my mother asked me to (even though DH and I were paying for everything.) Of course the daughter and granddaughter didn't show. Ugh!