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TTC after 35
Guennie
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Drive by bfp
Guennie
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in TTC after 35
Ticker warning.
I'm sorry for anyone who takes this the wrong way, but I felt a need to express something which has been bothering me.
There are a lot of women on this board who have been struggling for a VERY long time TTC. They come here to offer support to one another. If you have not taken the time to interact with anyone here and get to know them or let them get to know you, please do not post a drive by bfp. You may have been lurking for a long time and you may have found it a great source of comfort to read other people's posts, but if you did not participate in an at least somewhat active manner, suddenly posting your bfp feels like a giant slap in the face. I know I don't speak for everyone and many find inspiration seeing success stories, but for many it just feels really insensitive getting hit with an in your face bfp from someone who never took the time to introduce themselves and offer support to others.
If you are a lurker and you get your bfp everyone is very happy for you and wishes you the best, but please come on over to PG35 and introduce yourself there, we will welcome you. No disrespect intended to the ladies who recently posted, I just think a little board etiquette needs to be pointed out for the sake of the ladies who are struggling. Thank you.
I'm sorry for anyone who takes this the wrong way, but I felt a need to express something which has been bothering me.
There are a lot of women on this board who have been struggling for a VERY long time TTC. They come here to offer support to one another. If you have not taken the time to interact with anyone here and get to know them or let them get to know you, please do not post a drive by bfp. You may have been lurking for a long time and you may have found it a great source of comfort to read other people's posts, but if you did not participate in an at least somewhat active manner, suddenly posting your bfp feels like a giant slap in the face. I know I don't speak for everyone and many find inspiration seeing success stories, but for many it just feels really insensitive getting hit with an in your face bfp from someone who never took the time to introduce themselves and offer support to others.
If you are a lurker and you get your bfp everyone is very happy for you and wishes you the best, but please come on over to PG35 and introduce yourself there, we will welcome you. No disrespect intended to the ladies who recently posted, I just think a little board etiquette needs to be pointed out for the sake of the ladies who are struggling. Thank you.
Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.
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Re: Drive by bfp
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
TTCAL BLOG
All ALers welcome!
Well expressed thank you. I haven't had the difficult journey that some ladies here have/are but I did wonder about how some might feel in the face of the drive bys.
I did a general congratulations in calibride's post, because I am genuinely pleased for anyone who gets pregnant, and have just the best wishes for everyone's journey.
I do think some people need to think about the sensitivity of their posts.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Thanks Guen, as always you speak well
I am pleased for everyone that gets there BFP's but yes it can seem like a slap in teh face, not that these recent ones haven;t had their own struggles, I wish them all well.
And to the rest of us its positive hopes for our BFP!!!
LLama, love so good to hear from you as always too!! Miss you here!
My Ovulation Chart
Me: 41 DH: 46. We are TTC our 1st, started July '11,
3 cycles clomid with Ob,
1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.
May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN
May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't.
February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing.
SURPISE BFP 4/2/2015!!!!!!!!!!
Miscarriage 4/23/15
I miss you too! I wish I had a reason to post here again.. I do lurk just in case I need to congratulate someone though. Good luck to you and all my pals!
Me-39, HSG 2/13- clear. DS-IUI #1-3/13,300iu Menopur 12 days,3 days Cetrotide, Ovidrel Trigger-BFN. IUI #2 06/13, BFP EDD: 02/22/14 m/c (cp), IUI #3- BFP EDD: 5/17/14 m/c 09/13. Blood work/RPL panel- nk cell/MTHFR mutation- negative. Blood work all good. Unexplained reason for m/c. IUI #4 BFP m/c (cp) 10/13. IUI #5- 12/13 Cancelled. No response. (1)follicle. IUI #5.1- 2/14. IVF Bound
********************SAIF/ PAIF/ ALL ARE WELCOME***********************
Me:36 DH:38 TTC#1 since 4/2012
Me DX: Hashimotos,Hypothyroid, DOR, MTHFR, DH: normal
IUI #1-#4 BFNs and a few cancelled cycles in the mix.
- poor responder
***Suprise BFP on 6/13/13. Natural MC @6wks 3days
IVF#1 and 2- Cancelled due to no response on max stimms
FET 5/20- BFP
1st Beta- 641
2nd beta- 2166
Sono- TWINS!!!!
Two Boys! Born January 2015 @36 weeks. Healthy and no NICU! So blessed!
Siggy warning.
As a former poster and constant cheerleader for this board I gotta say that drive by's seriously suck and I give Guennie a big thumbs up for posting this.
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