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potty woes

I hate when my expectations for DS are too high only to be let down. I want for us, myself, DH and DS to have a normal life and it is not. DS has PDD-NOS.

DS is not even close to being potty trained and he is almost 4.5 years old. He only trusts me to help him go to the potty.

I was upstairs doing laundry this past weekend and DH was downstairs keeping an eye on DS because he was wearing underwear. I told DS to tell Daddy (Dh) if he needs to go potty. DS climbs up the stairs to ask me to go potty and then we run downstairs for DS to pee in the toilet successfully.

DS has asked to wear underwear to daycare so I asked the teacher what he does or if he makes any effort to go potty. DS doesn't tell any of the daycare teachers he needs to go or even runs to the restrooms to go.

What else am I going to worry about after all this potty training? 

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  • My DS turned 4 in February had had shown zero interest in potty training. Just for a little bit of background...he is not on spectrum but has had behavioral issues as well as social delays due to what we think is a large speech delay. He has continually been catching up to his peers with speech, SEIT, and OT services over the past 5 months.

    Anyway, he could have cared less. I tried everything. He had zero interest and like his diapers. All of a sudden one day I asked him if he wanted to wear underwear and he said yes. I just went with it. No more diapers. No pull ups. Cold turkey into underwear. He tried to back out after a week, but I said no. There was no turning back.

    At first we had to do scheduled potty breaks. Every hour on the hour. If we missed it by 15 minutes, he would have an accident. Then it turned into every 2 hours he could go. Now he finally tells us when he has to go(#1 and #2) and we no longer have to do scheduled breaks. It was a slow process but it worked. We had to do it when he was ready not when we were ready. The whole process from that first day until he was fully trained and telling us when he had to go was a good 3 months. His daycare was full onboard too and did everything we asked them to do as well. That was key to his success as well. Consistently at home and at school.

    Good luck. Its frustrating! But hang in there!  I promise it will happen!

     

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  • I was just logging on to vent about our potty woes (DS is four and will pee on the potty consistently when I take him, but he will NOT poop. If I don't take him to the potty he is happy to pee in his pull up).  If he makes an "accident," I will ask, "where are we supposed to poo poo?" He responds, "in the potty." I then ask, "why didn't you go on the potty then?" He will either say nothing or say something like "because."  At least I know I'm not alone with these issues!
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    I was just logging on to vent about our potty woes (DS is four and will pee on the potty consistently when I take him, but he will NOT poop. If I don't take him to the potty he is happy to pee in his pull up).  If he makes an "accident," I will ask, "where are we supposed to poo poo?" He responds, "in the potty." I then ask, "why didn't you go on the potty then?" He will either say nothing or say something like "because."  At least I know I'm not alone with these issues!

    I've never posted here but I was also coming on to ask the same question. My son will be 4 in September. We have been potty training for 15 months. He's been in underwear for 14 (Because he started preschool last Sept and had to be). He still refuses to poop in the potty. He will just go in his pants. He won't even tell me about it and has no problem sitting in it. He winded up in the hospital needing surgery because of this in January because he was so backed up. They had to put him under so they could manually remove everything and give him a biopsy. The doctors all agree it is not a physical condition. It is mental. We have done everything we can. Rewards systems of all kinds, buying different potties, we've visited specialists. I am on my wits end. I don't know how to help him anymore. I am glad we are not alone though.

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