Loss CheckIn

Mrs Nice

Welcome to our checkin!

I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

QOTW: Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

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Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?  I don't know, not really.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?   To get through the EDD next Friday.  Due to some recent days I had to take off work, I now cannot take off my EDD, but I've accepted it.  We're having a balloon release the day after at the cemetery with our close family and friends, so we'll focus on remembering our girl that day.

QOTW: Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel?  I have a small garden in my backyard with some pretty flowers, an angel statue and a rock that says Love.  We plan to make a bigger memorial garden for her but we're not quite able to yet.  MH and I also have tattoos, mine is her footprint and her name and the day she was born sleeping.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?  Just trying to get through till next weekend. 

hopefulmom88

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? No, I feel like I'm struggling a little more this week.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?  The next goal is to just reach a point of more acceptance that she is gone.  No real plans to achieve the goal, have been doing some relaxation techniques to try and relieve some of the anxiouxness that I have been feeling.

QOTW: Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel?  I have my memorial jewelry, just a plain silver chain with a round circle that has the letter T in it.  I was thinking at her one year birthday to do a balloon release and every year release one more balloon for how many years old she would be.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Just ready to get the autopsy results report back on the 26th and let that sink in and then move on. Hoping that it will be like people say, the anticipation is worse than the actual results.

BrittianyM

~ Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Nothing new, just continue to accept that she is no longer here physically.

~ Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?  More prayers.

~ Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel? I have a tattoo of her name & DOB on my foot with angel wings. I also have a memorial necklace and ring. We release balloons on holidays and her birthdays. Even the month birthdays for now. A star was named after Brooke, a book was donated in her name to a public library and a brick is being placed in a public park in memory of her. We also put fresh flowers in her room every week and a half. 

shandorfml2

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I don't feel like it, but I am eating healthy and started metformin to help conceive our rainbow.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Continue to be healthy, start exercising. Plant some flowers at Ana's grave

QOTW: Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel?  We'll be participating in a walk in October for pregnancy/baby loss. I want to do a memorial garden, and donate to some type of charity.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?Missing my daughter, as always. Today is a bit tougher of a day.

princezjk

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? 

Not really. Just trying to keep going. Everyday. One step at a time. Some moments are rough, some are almost easy. But, in general, all I can do is still take it one step at a time.  

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Getting healthy is my biggest priority. Even though I don't have clear answers for my loss, I am convinced that my weight and overall health were a contributing factor, so I really want to focus on dropping some pounds to be healthier.  

  

QOTW: Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel?  I have a necklace with her name that says "always in my heart". I also have a Molly bear.  We released balloons on her EDD and plan to do it every year on her angelversary.  I think I want to get DH some sort of jewelry or keychain with her footprint. Contemplating a tattoo, but that would be after all attempts at rainbows.  I've started looking for a special christmas ornament for her, too. Our Molly bear was considered an "ambassador" bear, which meant we had to raise $450 to have our order bumped up and sponsor the production of 9 other bears. I plan to do more fundraising for them in Izzie's honor.   Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Always my Izzie  

Dixon813

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? 

Sort of.  We were on vacation this week, so it was really great to be out of the house.  I thought about my babies all the time, but wasn't as sad and didn't cry much.  However, within 24 hours of being home, all the relaxation seemed to be gone and was back to being sad...

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? 

I asked (Before I went on vacation) about grief counselors - this week I'm making some phone calls to find a counselor.

  

QOTW: Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel?  I have a necklace with their names and their birthstone.  We have three azalea bushes in memory of them.  And we have three candles that were part of a care package from a fellow TTTS mom that I'm lighting only on the 27th of each month.
  Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? "My life is supposed to be so different" has been playing on repeat in my mind...

JessicaG220

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I have actually taken a few steps back.  As my coworker and Kate Middleton delivered their babies, the disparity has hit me hard.  Why are they at home cuddling with their children and I am at work grieving over mine?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

My next goal is to focus on getting pregnant again.  I have almost achieved my weight loss goal (I'm about 4 lbs shy), so I am happy with that.  I don't think I need to specify how I will achieve my goal of getting pregnant! 

QOTW: Have you done anything in memory of your angel? Do you have plans to do anything in memory of your angel?

DH and I assembled a shadow memory box of Ava's things.  It includes photos, ultrasound pictures, and keepsakes from throughout my pregnancy and from the day I delivered her.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

I am struggling with the idea of another baby.  I know in my head I will not be replacing her, but my heart argues with that.  I miss my first baby and I wish things were different.  But I fully intend to tell our next child all about his/her big sister!