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tbmadeamistake
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Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Off to the OB
tbmadeamistake
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I have an appt today so they can tell me that I'm insane (which I probably am, as all my tests have been BFNs). I have all the same symptoms I did with DD, minus the puking, I'm over a week late, and I'm going insane. For what it's worth, the symptoms are not the PMS and pregnancy are too similar ones, it's one that I ONLY had while pregnant (the red face, the bloating, the burping, and, how lovely, lactating). Appts at 1pm, wish me luck! Honestly, as sad as I'll be when they tell me I'm not, at least I'll know 100%.
Also, if you think you might be but are testing negative, don't google it because you'll get a bunch of stories about how people tested negative and then were pregnant and it'll make you go insane.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
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Re: Off to the OB
Honestly, I wouldn't waste the doctors time with this- or your insurance money.
If you are late but are getting negatives pregnancy tests, chances are you O'd late.
The general rule is you test every week until you either get a positive or your missed period reaches 60 days. THEN you go to the doctor.
The tests they use are basically the same sensitivity as a home pregnancy test. So you probably already know what they are going to tell you. Negative.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Nice to know that when a girl needs support, she can count on the Bump B*tches to bring her back down.
For the record, I needed peace of mind. I know everything you already said about waiting 60 days. I explained that to my doc when I called for the appt. They would not have seen me, or run any tests if they did not feel that I needed them. I am being given a blood test to check my levels to see if I WAS pregnant. That's right, they think maybe I'm having a miscarriage as about 2 hours after I posted this, I started spotting but don't have my period yet. Based on my particular set of symptoms, it's either that or a thyroid issue, which they are also testing for. Glad to know that all you ladies are doctors and can accurately tell when someone's not pregnant by what she says in a post.
So, thanks to the first person to respond for actually being supportive, and to the rest of, well, what I want to say will get blanked out so I'll just leave it to your imagination.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Who was a b!tch? You were given good information.
Chill
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
"It would be nice if common sense were a bit more common."
There's really no other way to take that. I'll chill when people learn how to be nice. Hiding behind a computer does not give anyone the license to be mean.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
okay - 1. It would be nice if common sense if common sense were more common. That is just a pure fact.
2. You never said anything about thyroid issues in your OP. That is kind of a big piece of information. And do you know how many times someone comes on here and asks about a negative test and a missed period and should I go to the doctor question? DAILY. So I'm sorry YOUR post was not met with tons of happy responses. But if you don't give all the information in your OP, you just sound like the same exact post, that is seen here day after day after day.
3. Freaking out because you didn't get the response you wanted it not going to solve anything. Chill out.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
yeah, I wasn't even going to go there.....because we are just b!tches that hide behind our computers. ::waves hi to ghostmonkey::
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Gosh, way to be insensitive!
*** idiots
Your doctor isn't going to turn you away because then a) they don't get money and b) they appear insensitive and have a pissed off patient. Pissed off patients find new doctors which takes you back to point (a), no money.
As GM said earlier, a beta blood draw (which is what they would be doing) can be done within a day with a stat order. If your dr thought you really were pregnant and something was potentially wrong, you bet your butt they'd order a stat result.
What *likely* really happened is you O'd later than usual, your doctor appeased you by bringing you in for a blood draw, you finally started your period and your doctor told you what you *wanted* to hear which is "you're probably having a m/c". Now, before people jump all over me, no one *wants* to hear that you're having a m/c, but the other thing the dr would tell you in this situation is "listen, you have no idea how your body works, you ovulated late and wasted our time/your money rushing in here for unnecessary bloodwork. You aren't and never were pregnant".
When they call on Monday to tell you your results, if they keep trying to pull the m/c card, ask them what your numbers were. If you were truly pregnant enough for symptoms, they would have been pretty high.
I'm sorry if this isn't sensitive enough for you, but I'm not really in the business of holding strangers hands.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
That sucks too. Mine is before O
I thought I was weird because I kept smelling it. I mentioned it to a CW who told me she lactated on and off for over 2 years after having her last kid. Thankfully mine had slowed waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay down before then.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Allie is 6 and I had it after her. I got pg with C and lost him 3 years ago next month. I still have it. My boobs feel rock hard and hurt. I joked I was going to pump to see how much I could get.
I didn't ask for opinions on whether or not I should see a doctor, or whether or not I could be pregnant. Mainly because I doubt any of you are actual doctors, and because even if you are, you have no access to my medical records to make an informed diagnosis. I simply mentioned that I was heading in after a rough week and got told that I was being silly/stupid. I'm pretty sure I mentioned in my original post that I was probably nuts, but needed peace of mind and also needed to know why my symptoms were so much worse than normal if this wasn't a pregnancy. I asked for well wishes, not opinions or medical advise or to be told I was stupid. The responses I got were bitchy. My response to those was also bitchy, apologies.
Did I tell you all of my symptoms? Nope, didn't want to bore you with the details that I'm sure you've all heard on posts like this before. Did my doctor tell me that I might have been pregnant? Yup, she did. If I had been, it would have been about 5 weeks. Not even a heartbeat yet, and not much she could do. Why she chose to run the tests that she did in the timing that she did, well, that's up to her, as she has the degree, not me. To have just heard that, and be trying to wrap my brain around it, was hard enough without coming home to be told that I was stupid. I'm not trying to garner sympathy for something that might not even be happening. I was explaining how the appointment had gone so that the doubters could maybe see that it was possible that there was a real reason for me to go to the doctor's.
I don't need anyone tell hold my hand, I don't need strangers on the internet to coddle me. It would be nice if people could actually read my OP and notice that I didn't ask for opinions. Or notice that I was obviously feeling a little nervous/down and needed either niceness or nothing. I was brought up to keep my mouth shut if I could think of anything nice to say, apparently that's not true of all of us.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
The facts: 1) You had no idea if you were really late, you are using the calendar method which is highly unpredictable and basically pointless if you are ttc (or trying to avoid it without a foolproof method of protection). 2) You listed off all of the reasons why you were "totes" preggo because the only other time you ever had a red face or burped or lactated or whatever other special snowflake symptoms you listed was the last time you were pregnant. 3) You basically came out and covered your butt with "I know I'm crazy, buttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt (insert #2 here)" 4) Your doctor told you what you wanted to hear
I refuse to keep my mouth shut in order to be "nice" if it encourages repetitive incorrect behavior. If no one told you that this was wrong, you'd not only go on thinking that your longer than textbook cycle was likely a miscarriage, this post would tell everyone that read it (and didn't know better) that it's not only ok, it's normal, to run to your doctor when you are a week late. This not only wastes your doctors time, it makes any woman who actually knows how her cycle works questionable in the doctors eyes.
Story Time? I was TTC for 2 1/2 years. I had a chart, I knew when I o'd, I knew I was pregnant. I had awful cramps and spotting and went in to the doctor because I knew something was wrong. They did an U/S and when they couldn't find a heartbeat, tried to convince me that I didn't know how far along I was. Why? Because most women don't have a clue about their bodies and freak out that they are pregnant when they hit cd 32. My doctor strung me along for a week, trying to convince me I wasn't having a m/c because "maybe you're not as far along as you think you are."
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
If I had been pregnant for every time I had missed a period or been "late" over the years I would have about 20 kids by now. Or maybe I just had 20 m/c's.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Damn, you found me out! Actually, I'm still on BC and haven't sex in months, so I don't know what I was thinking. Silly me. My doctor just likes to make money.
I promise to follow you two and read all your posts/responses that I can learn from the best. Thanks for pointing out my stupidity. I'll make sure to get all my medical advise from you ladies from now on
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Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Well at least you learned something.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
::Head desk::
*advice
(kitty was here)
Baby in a Blue Teapot
Tempest in a Blue Teapot, food and everything else
"You live, you learn, you drink, and move on." ~ Rotty
You said it girl! I'm new to this site but I've seen a lot of witches posting! Is this high school?
Anyway, sorry for what you're going through. Wishing you the best for the future!
You'd think it was, wouldn't you? I mean, most of these people have NO CLUE how their body works and get downright emotional and whiny when someone points out that they don't actually know everything. Adults would be able to say "Wow, thanks for your advice!" or "I didn't know that, interesting" without going on and on and on and on about needing "support" from strangers.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Ballsox (and all the other mean people posting to this string),
I am SHOCKED that you have literally nothing better to do with your time than try to make yourself feel good by making others feel bad. I always assumed these boards were to make people who were feeling irrational and crazy feel rational?.. I have been charting for a few months and contemplating a 3rd baby. I have found so much support reading posts about women struggling with the same decisions. To go for it or not to go for it?. I never in a million years considered that the bump or other sites dedicated to Mom?s/pregnancy would be a place where a woman would be left feeling bullied or unreasonable. And honestly I have a high level of disrespect for people who think it is their job to come on here and make less of what others are going through.
When I was 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd I had breakthrough bleeding and although there is nothing that could have been done if it was in fact a loss I was still seen by my OB for an ultrasound and blood work. A doctor takes an oath to not only heal the patient physically but emotionally too. Any doctor that takes emotion out of their job is a doctor and practice I would NOT want to call my own. This woman came on here for support and for someone who might be feeling the same way. Get off your high horses ladies and get a life. If you are not on here to get and or receive support then find someone else to harass. Go put your energy into something more productive and constructive and leave this woman alone.
1. It is perfectly ok for ANY woman, regardless of what is actually going on with her body, to seek medical advice if something feels wrong to her. Part of a doctor's job is to help give peace of mind, as well as heal/support physically. There was nothing wrong with my calling the doctor, and nothing wrong with her agreeing to see me. I have been turned away before (ie, wait a week and if it's still going on, call us back), and I have been told that I don't need tests run before. If my doctor felt that these tests were necessary, I trust that.
2. It is NOT ok for women to bash each other for what they think is stupidity, regardless of how stupid you think it is. As PP said, these boards are supposed to be for support. If you don't have any of that to offer, go find someone else to bully (because yes, the language and tones you were using was bullying).
3. It is perfectly ok for my doctor to keep me informed of what she believes MAY be happening with my body. If she thinks it MAY be a miscarriage, I'd rather she tell me and give me a chance to get used to the idea. If it had been a miscarriage, there was nothing she could have done. Ordering the test faster would not have helped, and as many took issue with, would have raised the cost of that test. I did not ever say that I was actually going through a miscarriage, I mentioned that it might be a possibility, and that coming to grips with that possibility was difficult for me. Not once did I cry "oh poor me, I'm having a loss" and expect hugs from you.
4. While I cannot dictate anyone's response, I can expect a modicum of respect. Women should respect each other, and treat each other kindly, especially on a forum like this one, where everyone is going through something amazing, difficult, heart wrenching, happy, sad, and exhausting. Being told that I have no common sense, being told that I am wasteful, being told that I cannot possibly be having a loss because I couldn't possibly be pregnant is none of that. It's not supportive, it's not kind, and it's not needed.
5. For the record, all of my tests came back negative. No baby, no loss, no thyroid issue, and no prolactin issues. It was, after all, just a wonky schedule, and I got AF over the weekend. I still feel no shame in calling my doctor, in going to see her, and in getting those tests run. I needed the peace of mind, and she was right in giving it to me. She even said that had it been a Monday, she would have had me wait another day, but she didn't want to wait over the weekend.
6. If this really is how you ladies feel you need to spend your time, and you feel justified in doing so, I feel badly not only for you, but also for your families. I highly doubt that any of you would have said those things to my face, at least in the way in which you said them here. If you wouldn't say it to someone's face, you should think twice about hitting post when you're done typing. Get a life. Get a happy life, because to read your bitterness, it doesn't like you have one right now.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
:re-reads post: Yup, I would have said any of the following to my friends if they came to me telling me that they were going to call the doctor because they were late by just a few days. And yes, I have plenty of friends and a perfectly happy life. Just because I don't treat everyone like fragile dolls doesn't mean I'm at all bitter. Quite the opposite, actually. I'm confident enough about my life that I don't have to base my self-image on what other people think of me, esp. internet strangers.
I'm sorry you didn't get the answers you were looking for, but you got the same answers that you got from your doctor. We just answered your questions without clogging a doctors office or wasting anyone's money. But you're right, we're just bullies because we suggested that perhaps your period was late (which it was) and that you weren't pregnant (which you weren't) in a way that wasn't so coated with sugary bull that you felt the need to hug us afterwards. I'm taking from all of your replies that I'm not going to be added to your Christmas card list? Drats.
Oh well now I'm feeling a tiny bit of remorse because after all of this stress, I wasn't very nice. An olive branch? I'm sorry for your later than normal period and the wasted money and time at the doctors office. Let's be besties!
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
way to go, IT department, way to go.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I am sensitive to the idea of “waiting to see” regarding medical conditions and believe in being proactive when something “feels” wrong. My father got the “wait and see” and was dead within a few months. When I have doubt about something going on with one of the kids I do not hesitate to call the doctor and bring them in and same goes for myself. In my opinion you can never be too careful. Again, I have no problem with you disagreeing with me on this it is a free country…. But I believe your ignorance and rudeness is so inappropriate it makes me sick.
I send you good positive thoughts and hope that in the future you can spend your passion and energy on something that really makes a positive difference in this world. You ladies clearly are very zealous women and I can only hope you do good by the world with that at some point. So put down your laptop and read a story to your child or volunteer at a soup kitchen. Go do something pure and good…
Best of luck to all of you
You know, each side of this argument is getting mad at the other side for essentially the same thing, at this point. In the most simplistic terms, we think you're being rude based on responses to my original post. You think we're being rude based on our responses to your responses. I guess we're all rude and can call it a day?
Though, I do sort of wonder what a totally objective 3rd party (like a guy who never wants kids) would think of this whole thing.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
See, and that's the thing. I don't feel like you actually understood any of my posts at all. I knew there was a chance I wasn't pregnant. In fact, I pretty much stated in my OP that I doubted I was. However, my symptoms were way not normal for me for PMS, coupled with being late, meant I wanted to get checked to see if anything else was going on. Her example was all about that, and about getting checked if you think something is wrong. It wasn't just about the potential baby.
Had you said the exact same things you did in slightly less "wow, you're an idiot" terms, I probably would have said thanks for the input and left it at that.
So I guess you think I'm stupid and I think you're rude. Good enough for me.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14