I've been on the IF board before and took some time off from the board while DH and I got our heads together. DH was diagnosed with severe MFI and after extensive testing and surgery, it was determined that he doesn't, and never has produced sperm. It was a long road to get to where we are now. Our therapist explained it as a grieving process - grieving for the inability to have children the way we wanted. We realized, finally, that all that matters to us is to have a family, and if that means getting help from someone - like a donor - then that is the path we will take.
I hope to look to all of you for help and guidance in this process.