I just scheduled my consultation with a lawyer, however I was wondering if anyone has had a custody schedule that began right before the child turned two. I'm not sure what to expect so I'm trying to start mentally preparing myself for it.
A little background information
She has lived with me her entire life
My family and I support her entirely, the father has not payed any support in over a year.
He has had her only a few times without me being there. The last time he kept her without me was over a year ago. I offer to let him take her, he chooses to go with friends.
He has been verbally abusive to me in front of her.
He also has very little patience with her, she's starting to not listen to everything you say so he gets frustrated and just rips her off the ground and takes her where he wants her to go, not very nicely.
When I go to go to the grocery store and i say she can stay with him for an hour she breaks down and bawls because she does not like staying with him. (She doesn't cry and cling to me the way she does in that situation as apposed to her staying with another family member.)
What can I do to start preparing for the court system? and has anyone had any similar cases and care to share what the schedule ended up being?
I'm just nervous about her staying away with him as she has not gone a night without me putting her to sleep in over a year. I spend every night with her. I just don't want too much stress on her.
Re: toddler custody schedule?
I would recommend trying something gradual .. but you need to figure out your schedule, his schedule, your daughter's schedule and plan accordingly .. at young ages it is better to have more visits for short times than it is to have a couple overnights once in a while .. that way she'll get used to him being a part of her life if she sees him often ..
as for the way he handles her .. I don't know what to say about that .. parenting classes? document the way he handles her if you feel it's inappropriate .. and try reminding him that she's only a toddler and she's still learning how to handle herself ..