Andddddd guess who cancels vacation 2 yrs in a row?

karatechrissy

BM should get an award. For effing up. Last yr, she made a HUGE deal about 'going to the beach' before we took our vacation. Said little snide comments while we were around like 'oh well, SS is going to just LOVE being at the beach with us (her baby daddy who isn't in the picture). Too bad you guys couldn't do a vacation this year' (which, we DID do a vacation, it was just right before school starts... like we do EVERY year. There hasn't been a yr since 2009 that we HAVEN'T taken a vacation late August. We just hadn't informed her of our plans because it was still July. Our CO doesn't say we have to say anything at all, really). She ended up canceling the trip. Never went. 

This yr, she planned a Disneyland trip and invited her parents to come with her. Been making big deals about it in the last weeks. Mind you, this year our August is BOOKED, so we took a vaca to Lego Land back in June. SS is really excited for it, and I was actually excited for him. Disney was going to be too crazy for us with a 1 and 2 yr old, that's why we opted for Lego Land this year. We will do Disney when DS and DD can remember. In the mean time, I was happy that SS was going to get to experience it, since we probably won't go for another 4ish years. 

BM moved out with her boyfriend a week ago. Did I write about that? I think I did... Anyway, they have been dating since April and met right when the baby was born in March. She moved out of her parents into his house, he is leasing, and has a roommate and a 1yr old of his own that he has EOW. Sounds like a party. So she texted DH last night and said Disney was cancelled. (we had made special arrangements with her so that SS could go. She planned the trip during part of our time, and asked DH to switch days with her so he could go. Obviously we were not going to say no) . Said she couldn't afford it.

I'm not surprised, but I'm upset for SS. He's going to be upset when he finds out. I wonder if she even told him or if she is hoping he will forget. I doubt he is going to forget. He kept talking about it last week. IDK.

 So... yea. Yay for follow through! 

CFjo2010

At least she's consistent in her effing up...  Sorry for SS.  Building a child up just to leave them disappointed is awful.  And for her to keep doing it is just horrible.  This is going to sound bad, but eventually he'll start expecting BM to let him down and not follow through on her promises.  Poor guy.

How does he seem to be doing with the new living arrangement?  I still cannot believe BM moved in with the BF and a roommate.  Seriously, what is she thinking?! 

KTdidit

So sad for SS. I obviously don't know BM but I get the feeling that she could never really afford it and moving out was her way to get out of it. I hope he doesn't take it too hard

Lavender P

I figured from what you have previously said about BM that she probably can't afford it in the first place. Maybe she tells SS so that she can seem like she is doing something amazing for him but then doesn't deal with following through. Whatever her reasoning is, I'm so sorry for poor SS. It is awful to get your hopes up and be let down, especially by your own parents. Are you and DH going to tell SS if he brings it up? I bet BM wont say anything and is hoping you will.