Guest question

jegoehle

Hi all I'm new to this board. I have a question, I'm sure it has been asked in the past and I'm sorry if that's the case!!

So, my mom is throwing me a shower in September. She is asking me for a guest list, and I'm not sure whether or not to invite work guests. She really thinks I should, but I question this because they tend to throw showers at work for past people. I do not want to assume that they're throwing me one, and would not expect one, but would hate to make anyone feel obligated to shower twice. She also thinks I should invite coworkers from my previous job left almost a year ago. While I was close with some, inevitably we have grown apart. Opinions?

Thanks in advance for any help :

ordinary1

Nearest and dearest.  Do you socialize with them outside of work and work related events? Are you close to them? Are they your level? If the answer to any of these is no then they don't belong on the list.

EastCoastBride

Yup - "nearest and dearest".  Chances are you'll get a work shower, so don't invite them.

And old coworkers who you've grown apart from?  No, don't invit them.

Showers are NOT "invite everyone I know/have known" events. 

And trust me - most of your coworkers, if they didn't throw one, probably aren't going to be all that upset to NOT be invited to your personal, outside of work shower. 

carlieanddanwedding

If you're close to them and spend time with them outside of work, invite them. If not, don't. Same with the old coworkers - if you still socialize with them and are close with them, by all means invite them; otherwise, skip the invite.

Helenahhandbasket

I had a work shower, but also invited my 3 closest work friends to the shower my mom threw me.  The work shower was really just cake and soda/ punch and a lovely card signed by all of my co-workers.

I think it's fine-- but maybe only invite those you see outside of work.

lollipoppoop

carlieanddanwedding:

If you're close to them and spend time with them outside of work, invite them. If not, don't. Same with the old coworkers - if you still socialize with them and are close with them, by all means invite them; otherwise, skip the invite.

I agree with this.  I have a lot of acquaintances that I will not be inviting.  I mean according to FB I should be inviting 200+ people

MMason12

I would ask your Mom what her guest count limit is.  Is she willing to host a shower for 20 people or one for 50 people, as there is a big difference in the two.  After figuring out your guest limit I would invite people that you are close to at work, which means you social with them outside of work.  I wouldn't invite past co-workers (no matter how close we were) if we grew apart 2 years ago.  

jegoehle

Thanks everyone, confirmed my thoughts :