Easily offended or rightly so?!?

NikkiD522

So I'm normally a lurker.. But today I have got to vent. Two things.. One.. Everyone I know is literally betting I won't breastfeed longer than a few weeks bc it will become "inconvenient" WTF?!? Do I come off that selfish that I would care about my convenience over feeding my child?!? Or.. Is everyone just so uneducated on breastfeeding that they just naturally discourage everyone?!? And two.. A girl I work with today who is also pregnant and scheduled to have a csection a few days after my due date , heard I had my hospital bag and car seat in my car already and said I was crazy for doing that. I'm sorry I don't have a planned due date to plan around.. Apparently being prepared is a bad thing... Ok thanks. I feel better already :

BlondieBia21

Yep! Everyone knows someone who says these things. To me, I just tell myself that they say these things to be discouraging because it wasn't something they could do. It's like people try to make everything into a competition and no one wants anyone else to be a "better" parent than they viewed themselves. Also, I'd rather be prepared than unprepared. What is it going to hurt that you have your things ready to go? No one, even the most "experienced" mom knows when their labor will start, unless obviously it is all scheduled. Just ignore the negative people. What you choose to do for your child, will be best. Believe in yourself and don't let them cause any doubt in you!!

traia

With as many women that i have seen or heard of having their babies early, its always good to be prepared. Whatever makes you more prepared for babies arrival, than so be it. And your going to breast feed for as long as you want. It may work for you, or it may not. But most importantly, its about what you want to do, and whats best for you and your baby.

kmichln

I would be annoyed too. I started packing our hospital stuff the other day. I'm not finished yet, though. I'm getting the car seat next week. I feel like I'm running out of time. =S

Celestialjensen

..lurking from july13... I guess what they say about mums being judgmental of each other is true! Do what you want to do and use discouraging comments to spur you on to achieve what you want even more. I still haven't packed my hospital bag and my due date is 19 days away... An the car seat we ordered hasn't come in yet! I wish I was as prepared as you!

RachelGraham1985

I hear ya...a girl is due about a month after me and gave me a dirty look when I said I was taking the full 12 weeks maternity leave 6 weeks paid, 6 weeks unpaid and proceeded with how are YOU going to afford that? I wanted to say bch don't worry about it, but just said well my fiance makes excellent money. I also have my sister telling me how misbehaved my child will be and how much if a brat he will turn out on a weekly basis. Got so mad I called our dad about it because I was fed up.

PackersFan315

The judging comments both irritate me and frighten me that I won't be as good as I hope.

But then something my friend said after we freaked out after our baby care class helped, and she doesn't have children, "The baby has never had another parent hold them, stiff or confident, this baby will only feel love. You and baby will learn together and be just fine!"

That comforts me. I try to think of that when people spew their advice or try to belittle my choices.