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Who knows you're TTC?

We are on cycle 2. I told my friends right away but I didn't tell my family until our first cycle was unsuccessful! I honestly just got tired of being harassed about "WHEN ARE YOU HAVING A BABY?" "GIVE ME A GRANDBABY" and my most recent and favorite, after hearing my 19 year old unmarried cousin was pregnant "Wow and here we all thought YOU would be next!"

My husbands friends and family don't know, but I think men are different. Also my husbands family is total opposite of mine and says things like "Take your time" "I'm too young to be a grandpa" etc... Unfortunately for them it's not up to them haha we are 25 and ready!!

michaelad3

The only other person who knows is my cousin.  She is pregnant with her 3rd, due in February.  She has been asking for a long time when we were going to have kids and trying to persuade us.  We always had reasons to wait, but when I was talking to DH about a conversation with my cousin, he said he agreed with her and was ready! We told her first because she's my best friend and it's nice to have someone to talk to about it, and second because she was kind of responsible for the push that got us started.

mrskelly731

I have a couple good girlfriends that know but that's because it's been 11 months and I needed to vent.  Right before we started TTC I told my mom we were thinking about it but that was last summer.  DH's parents have backed off about wanting another grandbaby thank goodness.  Also my DCP knows because she wants to hold a spot for another infant for me (I love her!)  When people ask that I don't want to tell I just say we are enjoying life with DD right now, or I say "kids are expensive!"  That usually shuts them up

johnsonscharosch

My In laws know, a friend of mine, and a coworker/friend. We haven't told many people because we don't want them to know we are having a hard time. We haven't been getting asked so that's helpful. We want it to be a surprise for everyone so we talk about it as little as possible. And it's frustrating....

ArmyWife0623

we have only told a couple of our good friends, and i told my mom. (she can keep it secret) everyone else will find out when we are about 3 months along.  

kali55

We've gotten a lot of questions from people about when we are having another.  I usually crack open a beer and say "Not today"

athlete010688

Our families know.  They all have been asking us when we were going to have kids.  I have some friends that know as well.  I'm sure DH has told some people as well too.  Our families knew fairly soon that we were trying.  I have talked to some of my friends about it.  This is month 14 for us, so it's kind of nice to have the support system from my friends.

jcsumm0

When we were TTC DD, I told 3 of my closest friends.  So far I haven't told anyone we are TTC #2, but we just started last cycle.  I may tell a few close friends as time goes on.

kramja01

Only two of my friends know. They do not live locally, and I only see them a couple times a year. I let them know we were trying when we got together. It more just came out as a "what's up in your life" type way, since one of them is buying a house and the other is getting married. I don't think we'll tell my parents or in laws unless we end up having IF issues and need their support.

Sarah52Beth

My sister, my very best friend, and a close friend where I live. I'm a military transplant, so all my really close friends and family don't live near me. Needed someone here who I could share with.

Ps: I love GTKY posts!

Rejufsovelem

My mom knows, and a few of my friends, its number 2, so its not as big of a deal to me I guess. 

tabaskoa

A few of my friends know and my sister knows. My entire BMB group knows. I would never ever tell the rest of my family...that would be kinda weird for me. I'm guessing my mom suspects we are trying but she has never brought it up.

TeeJ526

I've only told my Mom that we're TTC right now. I mentioned it to a friend that we're thinking about it, but nothing concrete. It kind of sucks because while I appreciate having my privacy and not being hounded by family with "Are you pregnant yet?" kind of questions, sometimes I really want to talk to someone about it.

vrj0522

Our families know. They know we want several children and I am older (will be 34 this month) so they knew we were trying for #2 starting at the beginning of the year and now they know even more so after I mc in April and let them know we were told to wait  2 months before trying again. I don't mind them knowing, they support us in our journey and I feel like I can share things with them instead of keeping them to myself.

tabaskoa

kali55:

We've gotten a lot of questions from people about when we are having another.  I usually crack open a beer and say "Not today"

I love this response.

I usually just tell people I'd love another one and leave it at that. They can interpret however they want. 

Wildfire2011

My husband's family knows we'd want to have kids sometime soon and that it's now possible (as I recently finished grad school) but they don't know whether we are actively trying or not.  It's going to be another couple months now before we try again, so with all that time going by I'm sure his mom will start to wonder and ask questions again. I'd rather nobody knew.  None of my friends or family know.  And of course, who knows how long it will really take.

CiescaLove

Only my best friend knows we are about to start trying again. There are some other people who know we are talking about a future baby number 3 but I plan on waiting as long as possible to tell people, especially my family. My mother has been really cruel during my other pregnancies so if we didn't live 5 minutes away I might not even tell her until we have a new baby at home.

There's another friend I would tell except whenever I bring up getting pregnant she starts preaching about the shettles method and my "acidic" vag and how thrilled she was to have 3 cesareans. And heaven forbid I mention charting. She tells me I'm doing too much and just do it "naturally" so we aren't exactly on the same page.

kinge16

we have a few friends who are in the same boat, so they know, that way I don't have to explain why im not drinking etc.

I think my mom suspects, but hasn't said anything. We are on month three now, and the last month was hard enough, so I am really glad I don't have to tell anyone when its not our month yet... 

mileswithmyles

I have a few close friends who know (my two running buddies, my childhood BFF who is also trying, and my maid of honor from my wedding).  The only family we have told is my younger brother.  My mom would probably had a heart attack (she is not ready to be a grandma).  DH's parents may not be excited either because my BIL and SIL and their 3 children under 4 live with them.

elizabethb3

We are telling absolutely no one at this point. This was mostly DH's strong request, but I tend to agree that it's a good idea. My mom, especially, would go absolutely nuts and not be able to shut up about it. I just don't want that kind of pressure. 

I recently lost my best girlfriend (long story), and it's been really hard for me. I think I probably would have told her by now were we still friends. It's so hard to not have anyone to talk to about it (DH doesn't like talking about it, either). What I really wish is that I had one good girlfriend that's been through it already that I could share everything with. TTGP is my new best friend as a result. :-/

zg49

The only person who knows is my aunt. We were at a family wedding and I was hoping to test a few days after the wedding so I wasn't drinking and after the 3rd time she mentioned we should have a baby I blurted out that we were trying.

DH was actually giddy about telling her and said he liked telling people we were trying but we decided to not tell anyone else right now since things aren't going as well as we would like.

 

It is hard to not scream it out loud though when we keep getting pressure from our family. I know you want grand kids - we're working on it!!   

rtv3

My sister is the only one who knows we are starting TTC now. My SIL, with whom I'm pretty close, knows that we're thinking about TTC soon.er rather than later. She's my only sibling/ sibling-in-law who has kids so I talk to her about baby stuff a lot For now we're not planning on telling anyone else, although DH might share with his best friend.

Also, every time I see one of these GTKY things, this song from The King and I pops into my head:

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRpeFRc_xM4

 

flutepharm87

No one. Not friends, not family. Only bumpies on the interwebz. There was one friend that I contemplated telling, but then she got KU and I just don't feel comfortable talking to her about it now. I've been tempted to just blurt it out to her lately though, because all she wants to do is talk about her pregnancy. I'm so happy for her, but for Pete's sake, she doesn't shut up about it!

Amy+Ryan

I've hinted to my parents and my sister in law. Everyone knows we plan on having another, just not right now. Both of our families believe their is never a right time and think we should wait and grow our careers before we add another baby but DH and I are ready now.

pettycrocker

Just the girls from my BMB FB group. I am so, so thankful that I have them to vent to. 

Mrs+Me

Our close friends know and my family.  We haven't really talked about it with his family. 

EML2011

We didn't tell anyone until we had been trying for over a year. After we started having to do treatments I told my mom, MIL, my sister and a friend who was open about her infertility struggles. Recently DH told one of his close friends just to have someone other than his mom and me to vent to.

Empireceo

This is only our first month of trying but I haven't told anyone.  I probably won't tell anyone and when we do get pregnant I will probably act like it's kind of a surprise.  I don't know why, but I just feel like it's a really private thing and I don't want people to know anything about it.  I guess I'm kind of a prude.

karmajupiter

None of my family or friends know for sure but I don't doubt that the ones who knew about our recent losses assume we are still trying.  We do get the "when are you going to have another baby" question quite a bit but we usually just shrug it off or give some smart a$$ response. 

mrs_tacos

My parents and brother know, because honestly, I tell them pretty much everything. And my three best friends know.

Oh, and my Aunt Susan knows, because my mom decided to not consult me before announcing to her that we're trying. And her exact way of putting it was, I kid you not, "They don't have kids yet, but not for lack of trying." Um, hello mom. That makes it sound like we have problems, and we've only been trying 4 months. Next thing you know I'm going to get a card from Great-Aunt Esther saying they're praying for my barren uterus. I've already talked to her about this. I would never have told her if I thought she couldn't keep her trap shut. She's normally so good about this stuff too! Honestly, if I saw my Aunt and she asked, I'd probably tell her we're trying. But it's the fact that my mom thought it was okay to share my reproductive business willy nilly that frustrates me. 

Okay, sorry that turned into a rant. I'm done now.  

Sanibel21

I have a hard time keeping a secret so I have told a couple girl friends but I don't need more pressure from my family so none of them know. And actually one girl at work knows because I was tearful when I got AF one day at work.

brneyemom2

We haven't told anyone and don't plan on telling anyone until we're KTFU. Our families both have really large opinions and mouths to match.

ChristianW88

My friends know, and my family knows... DH is not close to his family so I'm sure they'll find out when ever I'm pregnant and I put it on fb...

lookame3639

No one knows except me and my fiance. I already have one kiddo with an unsuccessful relationship and my sister has 2 kiddos...one of each gender. I have a feeling my parents will be less then excited and I dont want the lecture.

CarolinaGirl83

My mom (unfortunately), one of my aunts (we're super close), a good many of my friends and my coworkers/boss (There are only 9 of us at my office & they were constantly asking when)... we'll tell DH' s parents & sisters this week after my doctor's appt on Thursday. I'm sick of having to hear how cute so & so' s baby is, must be nice to have a grandbaby, blah, blah, blah. MIL told a friend, that knows we're trying, that DH & I were never having kids bc I hated children. WTF??

Luckbeababy

mrskelly731:

I have a couple good girlfriends that know but that's because it's been 11 months and I needed to vent.  Right before we started TTC I told my mom we were thinking about it but that was last summer.  DH's parents have backed off about wanting another grandbaby thank goodness.  Also my DCP knows because she wants to hold a spot for another infant for me (I love her!)  When people ask that I don't want to tell I just say we are enjoying life with DD right now, or I say "kids are expensive!"  That usually shuts them up

So really, really small world. I just clicked on your blog and it looks like you live in the Humboldt area? I just got back two weekends ago from visiting my sister and her family in Eureka. I love it there. I wonder if you know them? I recognized all the places in your pictures. Don't worry, I am not creepy and won't stalk you. Just got excited when I saw the Old Towne coffee shop!

Jenn06L80

Everyone.  I think even the residents I work with everyday know!   We have been TTC #2 for a year now, and are dealing with MFI.  We are doing IVF this month.  I am not a private person at all.  

coopsbaby

Only my sister knows, and since she had trouble conceiving her #2 she's a good ear and no pressure. My family all pretty much assumes we won't have any since we're older and I have 3 from my first marriage. I'm sure they'll all be shocked and most will think it's a bad idea so I don't need to hear it from them. 

 

Dh's family is already pressuring us, mil has been since we started dating practically. Dh is their only surviving child, so only chance at grandkids so they're all gung ho. But mil had trouble conceiving and we know she's be giving us "pointers" and being way too nosy since that's her way. We're just telling her we're not sure we'll have any which is true, and she can just be thrilled if we do have any! 

bumpuser1282882

We were trying to keep it a secret, but since my mc, the cat is kind of out of the bag. Our Moms and my siblings known as well as a close couple friends of mine.

ChristyML

Well, we never outright told anyone except for close friends last time...this time, we haven't outright told anyone except for my in laws, because MIL kept snarking that she got pregnant every time the first time they tried. I told her we had been trying for 6 months and she shut up.