Angry.....ticker warning

angelsnight

It's of course never easy to be without our angels, but with my former EDD just weeks away, I feel like I am more on edge than I had been a month ago.

Several people in my office have new babies or young kids and they talk about them all. the. time.  I want to scream at them somedays, especially today.  This one is talking about her new great neice, that one is asking this guy about his newborn son (which they do all the time, has anything really changed since yesterday?).  I know it's probably irrational anger, but I honestly do think if I were in their shoes and they were in mine, I would make an effort not to gush about my baby in front of someone who is three months out from having lost theirs.

Maybe I'm being ridiculous, but I just want to yell at them and say don't you know what month this is!?  Stop talking about your damn kids in front of me.  Thanks for letting me vent.

meli1025

((HUGS))  I'm so sorry you have to listen to them.  People just don't think and it's really insensitive of them.  EDD's are really hard and it's totally normal to be more on edge.  I am on edge on the 4th of every month no matter what since that's the day of the month when Ava was born.  I don't think you're being ridiculous at all.  They just really don't understand the magnitude of your pain since they haven't been there and probably don't even realize that they're upsetting you.  Not that it makes it any easier, but I'm sure it's not intended they are just so wrapped up in their own lives.  Are they the type of people you can talk to about it? 

angelsnight

meli1025:

((HUGS))  I'm so sorry you have to listen to them.  People just don't think and it's really insensitive of them.  EDD's are really hard and it's totally normal to be more on edge.  I am on edge on the 4th of every month no matter what since that's the day of the month when Ava was born.  I don't think you're being ridiculous at all.  They just really don't understand the magnitude of your pain since they haven't been there and probably don't even realize that they're upsetting you.  Not that it makes it any easier, but I'm sure it's not intended they are just so wrapped up in their own lives.  Are they the type of people you can talk to about it? 

Not really.  The thing is, in my head it seems perfectly justifiable to think they shouldn't talk about their kids so much.  But when I imagine myself saying it, I feel like I would sound like an irrational nutcase that expects the whole world to walk on eggshells.

Most days I can take it, but today I am really wound up.  It also really hurt that the day I came back after my leave, I was here for 5 minutes, and the woman across from me welcomes back this guy from his vacation and asked how his baby was.  Really?  My first day back was really hard and people can't even think to watch what they say for one day?  The thing is, I like that woman, she's very nice....but people are so so clueless when it comes to this.  Thanks for the hugs.

OSUWifey09

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I get the being on edge part. Devon's angelversary is a little more than a month away, and I can already feel the stress of the occasion weighing on me. My office is really small, so I'm not surrounded by babies - but that sucks that others in your office aren't being considerate. One of my coworkers just welcomed her first nephew into the world, but she's been so considerate about talking about him around me. I wish everyone was like that.

You're not being ridiculous. Honestly, it's amazing how fast people move on and forget what has happened to you; I would be angry if I were in your shoes, too. They may not even realize how close you are to your milestone [which isn't an excuse, but it may be the reality, which sucks]. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.   *hugs*

Dixon813

I am so sorry. 

I just got a call from Babies R Us reminding me that my registry completion coupon would be arriving - uhhhh, I canceled our registry weeks ago, but thanks for reminding me that there aren't babies to buy these things for.

Thinking of you...

angelsnight

Dixon813:

I am so sorry. 

I just got a call from Babies R Us reminding me that my registry completion coupon would be arriving - uhhhh, I canceled our registry weeks ago, but thanks for reminding me that there aren't babies to buy these things for.

Thinking of you...

Ugh, I'm sorry.  My plan was to register at BRU next time around because BBB did this exact thing and offered a less than stellar apology when I complained.  I guess no place is safe.  I would expect that from a store like Target or something, but when a store does 100% of their business with babies and expectant families, there is no excuse for these mistakes that end up hurting loss moms.  They should have an iron clad policy for when a pregnancy doesn't end in happiness.