I feel like such a horrible person!!!!

jaredswife

A good friend of mine is pg and due about 1 month before me.  They had their big u/s today and found out they are having a girl. 

 I really want to be happy for them, but I am so jealous.  I am so desperate for a girl!  I am actually terrified I will be disappointed if we have another boy.  But, it is going to be a surprise. 

I have kind of talked to DH about it and he is completely supportive of me.  But, he cant really say anything to make me feel better about everything. 

Basically, I feel like a horrible friend for not being excited for them, and an awful mom for caring so much about it. 

mags2041

Is there any reason why you're going to be surprised?  Sounds like finding out might be good for you.  Just in case you have a boy, you'll have time to come to terms with it and hopefully resolve your feelings about having another boy.

~Kat~

Not terrible at all! Maybe it means that you should find out? If it is a girl you can be super excited and not jealous, and if it is a boy you can get used to the idea.

jaredswife

We are not finding out because I dont want to.  I really want the surprise, and that moment right after the baby is born of finding out.

But, I am not debating finding out just because I didnt realize I felt so strongly about this.

Jen2124

I don't think you can help the way you feel, BUT if you think you might feel extreme disappointment if you wait and it turns out to be a boy, maybe it would be better to find out now.

Maybe when the nest is busier, you can ask some people who didn't find out AND had a preference if they felt disappointment or not? Although it may be different with a second child....

Fwiw, 2 boys is awesome. If you do have another one, you will love it!