I will be raising my son alone....

ShaCourtney

I'm 26 weeks pregnant and this is the worse painful thing I have been through..I don't know who to talk to because no one I know can relate or ever been through this. My sons dad will never have the opportunity to be his dad ever because of a dumb choice he has made that forever changed his and my sons life. The other night my sons father got into an altercation which resulted in him taking another's man life . I still can't believe this is happening to me. Or has happened. At this point in my life idk what to do. after my oldest son dad heard he has threatened to take our son because I allowed him to be around a murderer how do you know when a person will snap ? I just don't know what to do ???

inthelost

First of all: you didn't do anything wrong! You had NO idea he was going to murder someone else. You have no control over his actions. Your first son's father cannot take your son away from you because of that. He's just trying to scare you, in my opinion. Just breathe, take it a day at a time, and everything will be ok. you're not going to be the only one doing this alone. *hugs*

ShaCourtney

thank u seems like something stay going on thanks :

Runaway22

Wow, that is crazy. I am so sorry. 

Just to give you a heads up, while it's *unlikely* that your DS1's dad will win primary custody, it is very likely that he could get the court order adjusted to have more strict guidelines on who can and cannot be around the child (assuming you have some sort of shared custody agreement). So, be ready for that, though he was probably just reacting emotionally with no real intentions of following through.

That is a ridiculously difficult situation, and I can't imagine being in your shoes. Hang in there, mama. T&P for you and yours.

ShaCourtney

U have no idea : I don't know what to tell my child Ty for your advice ...

tanner921

First know that you are not alone. I am close to 17 weeks & when I told the Baby's Dad I was pregnant, he was on board. 24 hours later he told me he will likely be going away for 10-15 years for a very bad fight a year ago. What a tailspin. We don't choose the actions of others but we have to respond to them in the best interest of our children & ourselves. The only thing you can do is be positive right now. Yes, we will both have to face that topic: 'where is my Daddy?' But you have time to ponder the best and most authentic way to tell your child. The only piece of advice I can share is while you think this through, be as honest as you an be to your child when the time comes & don't speak ill of his/her Father. You are the best example of being a stellar parent! And you're already doing it! Please keep me updated, as your story makes me realize I'm not alone. Best to you & your little ones!

pregokat

ShaCourtney said:

U have no idea : I don't know what to tell my child Ty for your advice ...

when he is old enough to ask I'm going to explain to him that his dad lives in a different town and that he has his grandpa and uncle who love him very much, I'm not going to lie or make excuses for his dad, he needs to come to his own conclusions when it comes to that... My best advice is be honest as possible and make sure your kid knows you love him.her