I hate sex...

Mrs.AshAsh

I hope Im not alone in this but I feel so bad for DH. During my first two pregnancies, I was always wanting to mess around. This time around with the twins I want NOTHING to do with sex. Its awful and its been such a long time. I just feel so big and whale like already and Im only 27.4w. I know its not about my size for him but with this pregnancy there is so much pressure everywhere and just an overall uncomfortable feeling that I want no parts of anything else being in that area. I just had to vent...sorry if this post is TMI.

Mrs.AshAsh

Thank you for the reassurance. I just feel like such a horrible wife but I just cant bring myself to it at all.

txcyclist

I still feel that way almost 11 weeks pp. But now it's because after having two babies on my boobs all day I don't want to be touched. Luckily dh is being very understanding.

Ruthie04

Because of horrific morning sickness and pelvic rest, I didn't have sex through my entire pregnancy. And, we only had sex three or four times until the boys were weaned at 7.5 mos. BFing killed my sex drive and the thought of sex was so horrible. I just couldn't bring myself to do it.

It was so bad, it actually became a running joke in our house! DH and I had candid conversations about the topic and I really think it helped. You aren't alone!

ashleighlt

I'm due for an induction tomorrow and really want these babies to come naturally. I have been trying to get myself motivated to try and have sex to get things started but I can't do it. I feel huge, soar all over, tired and just completely unattractive. I can't wait until my husband and I are "one" again.
You are not alone hang in there

ktjruss03

You are not alone! I have not had the desire this entire pregnancy. That mixed with PTL and some bed rest I think it's been a handful of times, maybe, since these boys were conceived! It's a running joke in our house and DH understands. I told him another week when I'm at 35 weeks i might let him try something!

starrkitten89

You aren't alone! We didn't have sex once throughout pregnancy, and we just tried since I got cleared and couldn't even finish because it hurt too much. I feel bad for my husband.

TobieRose

Not there yet, but I keep trying to warn DH I probably will reach that point. Right now he is super busy with work and stressed ... I'm kind of worried that by the time he's back into it, I will be too uncomfortable. Oh well. 

I'm just glad this is my second pregnancy, since I know by now that there's no such thing as "normal" when it comes to desire while pregnant. I remember feeling so stressed out about it during my last pregnancy! 

Mrs.AshAsh

Thank you all for letting me know that its not just my DH that has been going through this. I just feel so bad. I know that my DH understands as much as he can, but he only understands so much. There are times when he has been so into it and I keep shutting him down. I feel like Im brusing his ego or something. Im over sensitive, Im sure, these hormones have me all whacked out. It is nice to know that its not just me thats not into things right now. Sadly, I do miss the intimacy...I just cant bring myself to it right now.

Tobierose...I warned my DH about this happening too and now that hes wanting it again...of course I want no parts of it.

ChattyCathy81

Thank you for posting this! Im 34 weeks along on this twin rollercoaster, and after chasing my 2 yo DD around all day the VERY LAST thing I think of is sex. I have had NO drive at all this pregnancy, and I think its from exhaustion. I had a really open conversation with my husband about and that really helped to alleviate some guilt I was feeling. I recommend having a talk about it. 

sweetsugarmama

for some reason I wanted sex more with the twins then with my 1st pg (I swear it was better with the extra testosterone running rampent in me). That was until about 25-something weeks. (I think). I had been trying to sell myself on sex but just couldn't do it. I had a broken rib and measured over 40 weeks. I finally mentioned it to DH, he said "umm....you have a broken rib and are the size of someone full term, I wasn't really holding out hope for it." It was the sweet release of all my guilt! Mention it to your DH he might not be too upset about it.

and if he is, make him hold two watermelons while he has sex then see if he still is in the mood. 

steidla

Don't sweat it - tell him if you make it far enough, you'll have to go for it so you can try the natural induction theory! My hubby just admitted a couple of weeks ago that he had been to afraid to have sex because he thought it would bring on preterm labor!

RoadToFertility

I don't blame you at all. I couldn't really imagine being intimate a I got larger and larger. In addition, since I have marginal placenta previa and have had a couple of bleeding scares during my pregnancy we made a decision to hold off. I feel bad too but at the same time it takes me at least an hour to get anywhere comfortable to fall asleep...I couldn't imagine intimacy at this point because like you said, there is just so much pressure everywhere. I don't think you're alone.

katiebenes

we tried. any way I can be comfortable doesn't offer "access" for DH...

that and I wanted to puke last time from the "motion of the ocean" lol

 

 I have no prior pregnancies to compare it to though

momof2buggs

I recommend finding alternative ways to give the hubs some sexual satisfaction. One thing I have learned is that their needs don't change along with ours.