Sex and the single parent

bakingkitty

what is acceptable and what is not? I am currently under fire from some for a really bad decision that is made and I can't change and for an ongoing sexual relationship with a guy I am seeing.

I just wish there was a handbook...

babymama619

lurchbaby:

I really want to chime in with advice but you are being very vague. A solid rule to live by is to keep your sex life as separate from your kid as possible.nbsp; If you are not in a serious monogamous relationship they shouldn't even be spending time with your kid.

Agree with all of this.

tracy41

lurchbaby:

I really want to chime in with advice but you are being very vague. A solid rule to live by is to keep your sex life as separate from your kid as possible.nbsp; If you are not in a serious monogamous relationship they shouldn't even be spending time with your kid.

Yep, that.

inthelost

lurchbaby:

I really want to chime in with advice but you are being very vague.

A solid rule to live by is to keep your sex life as separate from your kid as possible.  If you are not in a serious monogamous relationship they shouldn't even be spending time with your kid.

I'm also chiming in that I agree with all of this 

bakingkitty

lurchbaby:

I really want to chime in with advice but you are being very vague. A solid rule to live by is to keep your sex life as separate from your kid as possible.nbsp; If you are not in a serious monogamous relationship they shouldn't even be spending time with your kid.

He does not spend anytime with my child for that reason.

About marchish I had a one night stand which was not my proudest moment and I was really upset at myself for awhile for it.

The first time me and this guy I am seeing had sex, we were drunk and went at it without protection. I have since had protected sex with him a couple of times.

I posted a joke photo on IG about happiness being the walk of shame in the am for my IRL friends who know that I do not do that and that it was eluding to the fact that I came in late and woke up late to get ready for work.

So now, I am a terrible role model for my daughter. I am just trying to figure out what is right and wrong when dating/having sex. I go out maybe 2 times a month at most and never leave my daughter overnight.

tracy41

bakingkitty:

lurchbaby:

I really want to chime in with advice but you are being very vague. A solid rule to live by is to keep your sex life as separate from your kid as possible.nbsp; If you are not in a serious monogamous relationship they shouldn't even be spending time with your kid.

He does not spend anytime with my child for that reason.

About marchish I had a one night stand which was not my proudest moment and I was really upset at myself for awhile for it.

The first time me and this guy I am seeing had sex, we were drunk and went at it without protection. I have since had protected sex with him a couple of times.

I posted a joke photo on IG about happiness being the walk of shame in the am for my IRL friends who know that I do not do that and that it was eluding to the fact that I came in late and woke up late to get ready for work.

So now, I am a terrible role model for my daughter. I am just trying to figure out what is right and wrong when dating/having sex. I go out maybe 2 times a month at most and never leave my daughter overnight.

Well, see your problem is not the sex, it's the over share! The world is full of people who love to judge, so if you tell them stuff...they judge. Don't let it bother you. I'd reply, "Did you think I was the Virgin Mary?" But probably b1tchier.

bakingkitty

Exactly!! I didn't mean to overshare but I didn't realize how many people off my bmb was following me on IG. Which is where most the info came from

tracy41

Also, besides the over sharing, know that married people, and people in committed relationships, always judge single people for their sex lives.  Because they never ever had sex before they met their current partner.  And they've also never been drunk and done anything stupid.  Just so you know.

It always made me laugh that after I got pregnant with LO everyone at work assumed I had a drunken one night stand. Why? Apparently you're not allowed to date after divorce. No one told me, so my bad.

Runaway22

I agree the main problem is the overshare.

Obviously you don't want to make getting to work late a habit, because - regardless of whether you were out partying or whether you were up late watching a marathon of Happy Days - that could set a bad example down the road. Your infant isn't going to pick up on these things yet, so I think you're 100% in the clear. Nobody's perfect, and nobody should expect you to be. 

merrymarie89

I think the best thing to do is to take care of your physical needs and realize you're HUMAN. Read all your responses and you're clearly busy with work and raising your daughter. If you don't have the time yet to establish and work on a meaningful long-lasting relationship, you have every right to give in to your desires as long as you are being safe and not jeapordizing your child. You should not feel guilty for having sex! You are a parent, but you have a life too! Due in feb- Winter bby -