Adoption

Sad news

We met the boy we were hoping to adopt yesterday.  He has much more severe medical needs than we were told.  He is very precious but would require more than we could give him.  We are not able to adopt him at this time. 

 Worst day ever yesterday.  We could pursue another child while here, but my husband needs to get home for his job.  So I guess this is the end of this journey for us at this time.

 Thank you for all your support throughout the process. We've learned so much. 

 

 

Re: Sad news

  • emcaemca member
    I am so sorry. 

    After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

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  • I am so sorry.

    Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.

  • AwBethAwBeth member
    I am so sorry!  Praying for your family and for this little boy! 
  • I'm so sorry :( It's hard to acknowledge your limits, but in the end it's best for you guys and him. Hope you find peace. 
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  • Oh I'm so very sorry.  How devastating.  :(
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  • I am horribly sorry for you, and hope you find solance in the knowledge that it wouldn't be right for any of you for you to adopt him without feeling capable of meeting his needs. Please know that, as much as it hurts, you surly did the best thing for every one of you.  please feel free to come here to process your feelings. There are posters who had adoptions fall through and others, like myself, who made the difficult decision that we could not adopt a specific child due to the extent of their needs. 
  • Oh No! I am so very sorry to hear this news! T&P are for you today! 
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  • I'm sorry.
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  • I am so sorry
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  • I am so very sorry. What a difficult decision to have to make. I think you showed an amazing amount of strength and love in recognizing that the situation just wasn't the right one. Safe travels home.
  • IRRIRR member

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    I am so very sorry. What a difficult decision to have to make. I think you showed an amazing amount of strength and love in recognizing that the situation just wasn't the right one. Safe travels home.

    ^ This and I am angry that you and your DH had to travel so far to learn the truth about the child you were hoping to be yours.  I can only imagine the disappointment.

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  • I am so sorry :(  I am thinking of you!
  • DawnBADawnBA member
    Oh, I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how devastating this must be for you. Be proud that you had the clarity to make the right choice for your family & this little boy, not that it's any consolation.
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    I'm truly sorry!!
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  • I am so sorry.
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  • Thank you everyone.  We are home now.  My husband just wants to move on and forget the whole situation which I know is how he copes with things. I really need to talk about it.  I just can't believe we came home without him.  I'm so doubting myself and wishing things would have been different.  Not a fun time.  We were so excited throughout the past 7 months and worked so hard. I can't believe this is how it ended.

     

     

  • I'm so sorry things turned out this way. I just wish there was more to say.
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  • I am so sorry this happened.  Thoughts are with you.  Huggs
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