Oh, MILs, what are you going to do?

kschref

My MIL is a wonderful lady.  We talk on the phone all the time and get along great.

DH has an insanely large family and she is very much at the epicenter of it.  When DH and I got married, we had several large parties both before and after and everyone kept saying to her, "You finally have a daughter," instead of talking to me.  Okay, whatevs.  I don't always like being the center of attention anyway.

Today we announced our pregnancy on Facebook.  I got a lot of great responses.  My MIL called and said her Facebook was "blowing up". I popped over and looked at her page and it was insane! Everyone on that side of the family apparently looked at my page, and then went and posted on hers! She also told me she got 122 emails about it today.  I got - hmmm, 0, lol.  

I'm not upset about it, but I'm wondering if this is some sort of sign of things to come?

peanutmuse

That is really strange.

aessary03

That's kind of odd/a tad bit rude for people to comment on your MIL's page, etc. instead of yours.  Did she put an announcement up on her page, too?  Sounds like your MIL is a bit of AW!  Mine is, too.  I like her a lot, but she's definitely the mama hen.  You may need to continue feeding her ego, it sounds like.

Lena122

122 emails?! That's crazy! Mine isn't as bad but it seems like every time MIL or FIL post a picture of DS on their FB pages they get about 3x as many likes as I would have gotten on my own page. As long as your ILs are being supportive about it, that's the best you can hope for!

turtlelp

It's great that she's excited (as is the family)- but I gotta say, that would kind of tick me off!  Glad you aren't upset about it!

BuckeyeANG

That would annoy me.

 

Regarding whether its a sign of things to come, you might have to regulate a bit after baby is born.  We had to lay down the law with my ILs as they were way too possessive after DS was born....not to mention wanting to practically live at our house.  Um no.  Things are better now, thanks to a series of phone calls and emails when DS was about 5 weeks old.  

BuckeyeANG

Bump burp

Winnieella

It's great she is happy and excited but I would be ticked off at that. They should be congratulating you.

MeganWorden

I could have written this post exactly. haha yeah it doesn't really bother me either. I just kinda find it funny. 

ScarlettDahlia

That is so bizarre. Like, they saw your announcement and decided to go on MIL's page and congratulate her and say nothing to you? Just so utterly strange.

katie-lynn3313

that is really weird! 

 

growingmybun

I think that it's kind of sweet--the grandparents get excited--it's about them too.

kschref

My MIL didn't post a single thing on her page.  She asked me if she could post my video thing later and I said sure.  Like I said, she's super sweet and always asks permission and we get along great.  

What I think is that DH is the youngest of a bajillion cousins, and my MIL is very wealthy.  So when somebody gets married, has babies, etc., she always gives a huge gift.  She's extremely generous and warm-hearted.  She throws parties for people and is a huge gala organizer for events in their city, so she's a social butterfly in the extreme.  Since we are really the last in that line of cousins to get married/have kids, I sometimes feel like people are trying to "pay her back" or something.  It's great and all, but sometimes I want to put my toe in the spotlight too.  

JuliaH21

I have a fb friend who is about a week ahead of me with her first (and the first in her family) and I saw a few people posting on her page about how excited/happy they were for her father. I thought that was strange because they didn't say anything about being happy/excited for her. Seems like kind of the same thing. 

LeannFran

That's really bizarre. Good luck with that!

megngregk

122 emails...to the grandmother? How big of a friggin family does this woman have?! 

That's insane...and a bit strange. 

nicholssquared

My MIL posts lots of pictures of the boys to my page, and then people comment (on my page) saying things like, "What beautiful grandsons you have!" Uh, really? You're on my page! Can't you give some credit to the actual parents? NBD really, but a little irksome, I agree! Anyhow, I can totally relate.

July1215

It sounds like your MIL is very well liked/loved and people are happy for her. I would be willing to bet people know how much she wants to be a grandmother. I can imagine her popularity can be annoying for you at times but it sounds like you are handling it well. She will probably throw a wonderful shower for you.

Deblondie1

Will this be her first grandchild? That stuff is really weird. I don't think anyone told my in laws congratulations about our pregnancy with DD. They did tell my mom and dad, because she was their first grandchild. But it wasn't nearly on the scale of you MIL. 

ETA: Read your other response. You've said before she does some things a little differently, because of how she lives. Could it be a thing that just happenes where/ how she lives? 

kschref

Yes it will be her first grandchild and she has been wanting one forever.  Her social circle is huge so the number of responses she's been getting is pretty typical for her.  She's already in the process of setting up trust funds for this LO I'm sure an there is no doubt that she will be loving and excited. It's just something I'm getting used to being married into this family now - seeing how that sort of society works I suppose.  I'm not quite as involved in all of it as she is.