Another pregnant while interviewing question

vszapp

Sorry ladies, but I'm hoping to draw upon your experience.

I am employed, but I have been in touch for several months with a well funded healthcare non-profit that I *really* want to work for, and they finally have an opening that is perfect for me. This place is insanely competitive, often having 500+ qualified applicants for a position. The recruiter has kept in touch, and the hiring manager (with whom I interviewed previously) has asked for me specifically for this position. They just invited me to an in-person interview, and I am stoked - even though it would mean relocating.

The kicker of course is that I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant. I know the usual advice is not to tell, but this organization would be giving me a management position and probably spend close to $100k relocating me and my family. I somehow feel really slimy not telling them, but on the other hand, I know once they have the info, they may choose a different path.

Not looking for anyone to make the decision for me, but hoping to hear a compelling reason to go one way or the other. If you were the hiring manager, would you be angry if you found out after the offer? FWIW, she's a mom.

 

Helenahhandbasket

Don't tell until you have a firm offer.

If you are really the right candidate, 12 weeks (or whatever you get for mat leave) is a blip in what will hopefully be a long fruitful working relationship.

preggersin2011

My advice when it comes to interviews is if they cannot legally ask you the question, then you shouldn't volunteer it. it puts everyone on the hiring committee into a bad position.  There are things like life insurance and others that pregnancy is a preexisting condition but that doesn't affect a job. I switched positions within my company while pregnant. i knew the hiring manager prior to my interview. I set up a meeting with him after my interview to let him know i'm pregnant since my current manager already knew. He's been a manager for over 10+ years and he laughed at first, then he said he's never had to fire anyone before for being pregnant or being a mom. He listed things like lying on a time card, alcoholism and refusing help, and other things....

vszapp

OK, I was feeling a bit dishonest not to mention it, but given that it is a taboo subject from the company's perspective, I suppose it makes sense to avoid it.

MynaBird

I've interviewed for a couple of jobs since I've been pregnant and I've been up front about it, but I didn't interview until well into the second trimester (so it was visually obvious that I was pregnant even if I hadn't mentioned it -- and it didn't turn out to be an issue for any of the interviewers. I just turned down a job offer at 32 weeks). But at six weeks, I wouldn't have said anything. I didn't even tell my current job I was pregnant until 14 weeks. If you wouldn't tell your current employer yet, I don't think there's any reason to tell a prospective employer. 

TheBorg7of9

Don't tell! Some people don't even tell their own mothers at 6 weeks.

iverske9

I am in the same situation (6 weeks too) and I am going to tell once I have an offer. I have to discuss FMLA since they will not have to offer it. Good luck!