Pregnant & DTD: fear of another preemie

alphaphi98

I just found out last week that I'm pregnant. I'm thrilled but also worried about having another preemie. My first baby was born at 32 weeks. My water just broke suddenly without warning and despite trying to keep her inside me, she came. PTL was unknown. She was always healthy & had no problems. She is 9 months old now.

I'm worried about having another preemie. My dr will take extra precautions with me this time. He already said I'd be on pelvic rest during the 3rd trimester. Last pregnancy, I still DTD throughout the entire time. This time I'm worried that DTD will be bad. I see my dr in 3 weeks, so I'll ask him about this. But until then, should I be worried about DTD?

tlk432

Congrats on your pregnancy! My first was born at 34.5 weeks and I also had my water break spontaneously.  No problems or issues until that point.  I'm pregnant with my second right now, and at 11weeks started seeing our Maternal Fetal Medicine group, because of my history.  Within a month, they were able to figure out my cervix was short, that's why my water broke, and I had a cerclage placed. Lots of monitoring along with weekly progesterone shots and meds for irritable uterus, I'm now 38.5 weeks.  A fear of another preemie I think is pretty common, but there have been a lot of success stories. As far as DTD, I am a little overly cautious, so I would wait to ask at your appointment or call to ask sooner. Good luck!

KatFCo

Congratulations on the pregnancy! I agree with PPs that you should talk to your doctor about your fears. I was on pelvic rest from weeks 22 on, and before that I admit, I was nervous every time. My doctor assured me it would be okay, but that was the only reason I was willing to do it.

Piper345

Congrats on your pregnancy! My DS was born at 30.5 from spontaneous PTL and inconclusive reasons. I am now 19 weeks PG with my 2nd and not currently on pelvic rest. Early in the first tri we DTD but have since stopped. I am being monitored very closely and my doc hasn't told me to avoid but I'm way to nervous. Since I technically don't know why DS came so early I'm trying to do everything to be careful.

alphaphi98

We DTD last night and it was great! No worries.

punky917

I would definitely ask your OB about your concerns since everyone is different. DH and I were paranoid about DTD so crazy as it seems, we agreed that as soon as I was pg, that we were going to abstain until LO came. When I actually got pg, I thought about how crazy it was that we would abstain from DTD for so long. However, MFM put me on pelvic rest from the first appointment (around 8-9 weeks) until 37 weeks. By that time, I had no desire to do anything related to sex.

I understand your worry because I would totally be the same way. I had a "normal" pregnancy with DS so we continued to have sex. I had pPROM right before I hit 24 weeks. From what I know now about my body now, I am sure that continuing to have sex was related to pPROM, but did not necessarily cause it. This is why we had no problems whatsoever from abstaining because we wanted to avoid the same experience again.