The girls take swim classes, John sits and waits. He'll go in the pool with me up to his knees. But he won't take classes. DD#1 takes tae kwon do, the twins did a trial, and he liked it well enough- tried hard and seemed to like it. I think it could be good for some of his physical weaknesses.
HOWEVER- at $900 for 6 months (shortest membership), I am loathe to sign him up because he is inconsistent, and frankly, though he seems excited about it now, I really want him to take swim first.
They turn four in a couple weeks, at which point I will sign up DD#2. Would I be a monster and scar him for life if I tell him he has to complete one swim class before he can take TKD?
Re: Taking classes...
Yeah I think it is fine.
The thing that I think is so hard is that swim lessons, while 'fun', are an important skill and so we can't think about them in the same way as optional fun stuff like sports, TKD, soccer, gymnastics, etc... many parents feel really strongly that their kids learn to swim for good reason so forcing the issue a little is ok, in my opinion.
Oh I hear you! When DD started, there was a threes class before her class and it blew my mind, how little seemed to be going on to my untrained eye.
But DD#1 was almost 5 when she started and it has changed her. I HATE going because it is crowded, too little seating, wrangling the twins while trying to watch a little- ack. But my little girl is now asserting herself, learning humility (an area I need help with-lol), and they require a parent and a teacher report before they are allowed to belt up, so she really takes the lessons on discipline to all areas.
It's just a fact the twins get to do everything before #1 did because they are following her. They know the student creed and the kamsahs for white and gold belts. And when practicing bopper sparring, they are all pretty equal. I have no doubt it will be remarkable for each of my kids for different reasons, but the $$$$$ is appalling. THen the gear, tournaments, and stuff. I don't expect them to stick with it, but like swim lessons, would like them to take enough away to protect them and give them confidence when needed. Luckily we'll only have two preschool tuitions this year to offset the cost of TKD!!
Yea, when the girls started, he said he would take swim classes when he was 100. Now he says he'll agree when he is 5. He does have some "sensory differences" and he is improving in the bath tub (not freaking out if a drop of water lands near his face). He's a good boy so I hate to force. He is also incredibly sensitive and cautious so I don't want to let it go too long. Maybe t he trend here for pool parties will motivate him. Sigh.
Yea, when the girls started, he said he would take swim classes when he was 100. Now he says he'll agree when he is 5. He does have some "sensory differences" and he is improving in the bath tub (not freaking out if a drop of water lands near his face). He's a good boy so I hate to force. He is also incredibly sensitive and cautious so I don't want to let it go too long. Maybe t he trend here for pool parties will motivate him. Sigh.
Yea, when the girls started, he said he would take swim classes when he was 100. Now he says he'll agree when he is 5. He does have some "sensory differences" and he is improving in the bath tub (not freaking out if a drop of water lands near his face). He's a good boy so I hate to force. He is also incredibly sensitive and cautious so I don't want to let it go too long. Maybe t he trend here for pool parties will motivate him. Sigh.
Yea, when the girls started, he said he would take swim classes when he was 100. Now he says he'll agree when he is 5. He does have some "sensory differences" and he is improving in the bath tub (not freaking out if a drop of water lands near his face). He's a good boy so I hate to force. He is also incredibly sensitive and cautious so I don't want to let it go too long. Maybe t he trend here for pool parties will motivate him. Sigh.
This is really surprising to me... a martial arts company in our area offers classes at daycares for a really reasonable fee starting in the 3-4 yr old preschool rooms. We thought DS might really respond well to it b/c we have some trouble w/ him focusing and getting easily frustrated w/ things so we enrolled both our twins around 3 1/2. They absolutely love it. He fights me on going to school frequently but never on the day they have martial arts. They had a ceremony to get their yellow belt recently & I was so impressed w/ the amazing way the senseis interact w/ the 4-ish yr old age group, how they talk to htem in understandable ways about determination, not giving up, loyalty, trust, etc... The kids respond so positively and they do all different stances, stretches and they all got to kick a board to break it in half. DS took a number of tries to break his board & he did not get frustrated or anything, just kept trying as the sensei encouraged him...at home this would have been a meltdown. I don't think that kids not sticking with it is any different than kids who try soccer, dance, gymnastics & other things that dont' work out depending on the kid--- could very well not work out when they're older too, unless there is some significant difference w/ this particular activity?
But, I do agree that the amount of $ these places charge for the regular classes is quite high for kids that age when you don't know if they'll respond well...but I would hope (?) that the companies would allow a trial period. If not then I guess I would probably pass or look elsewhere.
Is the 900 each or for both little kids?
Yes, I think we are kind of there. Last thing I need is for one slip- dumb teacher move or playful child splashing freaking him out and me having to bathe him with baby wipes because he won't go near the tub!!!
The TKD is $900 per child, Each sibling receives a discount, but it's outrageous. Pretty much on par with other programs in our region. I hate that I am suckered in and think it is the best thing for my kids.
I think it's fine to hold out the martial arts classes as a reward for sticking with swimming. Kids need to learn to swim for safety. Even if he doesn't "like" swimming as much, it's important to learn.
My son does martial arts; I looked around for a while before signing him up. I'd be skeptical of a program that locks you into a contract for a 3 or 4 y/o, especially if it's not a preschool-specific class. If the whole class is geared towards preschool learners, it's probably fine. If it's an open class but majority older kids, I'd be wary.
At my son's program, the beginner class is for ages 6 to 12. Sometimes a family will beg the instructors to let a younger sibling sign up. You can always tell these kids, because they aren't able to stay focused and follow directions. And they shouldn't be expected to! That's why they're not in school yet! There's a big difference between a 4 and a 6 y/o! I've never seen one of these kids make it past the beginner white-belt class. Again, that's just one program, though.