Vent long

morrkim

H just got home from work and was throwing a huge fit after holding it in the whole time at work and now he really wants to quit his job, but can't.  Luckily Alexis and I were already up, so he didn't wake her up.

Background

 H works at a casino where they don't treat there employees very well.  We have looked at moving, but decided to wait a year, because things were starting to improve.  He makes a lot bigger salary than me.  He is also a senior member.  He was there when the casino opened. I am a teacher and my contract has already been renewed for next year, so I would probably have to pay a fine to get out of contract and my position would be hard to fill because of what I teach, so it might be high.

 A few weeks ago the schedule for this week came out and h was scheduled to work the 4th, which is one of his usual days off.  He had been excited this year because he was expecting the 4th off since he normally would have gotten it off and this would have been the first time he had it off and being the most senior he should have gotten it off.  He threw a fit about it and there were several other problems with the schedule, so they took it down to change it.

the new schedule came out and not only is he working the 4th, but also Monday, when he normally has Sunday, Monday, and Thursdays off.  We had plans to go camping, but we can't now.  (I'm upset about the camping, but we're more upset about the 4th.).

He wants to quit so bad and because of my job we can't without paying a fine that we probably can't afford.  We can't afford for him to quit and get a different job here.  He could probably get a job 2.5 hours away that is close to his current pay and I have been told I should easily get a job in that area too, but its getting out of my contract that will be hard.  Thanks for listening.

[Deleted User]

I'm sorry to hear he hates his job. That really sucks.

However

If he wanted a holiday off, he should have requested it off, instead of assuming he had it off. Sure, it may be his "normal day off" but that really doesn't matter If someone else requested the holiday off. JMO.

Mrs.G123

That sucks. But adults don't quit jobs over having to work a holiday.

ChrisG83

It sounds like OP is saying there are other issues with the company besides scheduling conflicts and this topped it off. That's what I gather anyway. I know the feeling and I'm sorry. Perhaps try camping for Labor Day? Is that the next holiday?

morrkim

Betty&Co:

I'm sorry to hear he hates his job. That really sucks. However If he wanted a holiday off, he should have requested it off, instead of assuming he had it off. Sure, it may be his "normal day off" but that really doesn't matter If someone else requested the holiday off. JMO.

It's a blackout day so he can't ask for it off.

morrkim

Mrs.G123:

That sucks. But adults don't quit jobs over having to work a holiday.

its not just this it's a lot of things.  They treat their employees like cr*p.  He wanted to leave before this, but we decided to wait another year to save more money.  It's also that he is the only person whose schedule got changed to work it.  Everyone else kept the same schedule or it got changed so they are off.  Also it's the fact that he is scheduled 50 hours.  He is not going to just quit, but he wants to and we can't because of my job. 

morrkim

ChrisG83:

It sounds like OP is saying there are other issues with the company besides scheduling conflicts and this topped it off. That's what I gather anyway. I know the feeling and I'm sorry. Perhaps try camping for Labor Day? Is that the next holiday?

. All holidays are blackout days that you can't request off.  They never close. 

morrkim

mbm1983:

Yeah but rationally speaking. Being scheduled on your off day shouldnt be the straw that broke the camels back when A, hes the high earner, B, they cant afford to live without his salary, or C, they have to now pay if they want to move because of her contract. Unless they can live without his salary for a while, he probably needs to just deal. But hey by all means quit if you feel so inclined. Its no difference to me.

. He won't, but I just needed to vent because I feel likes it my fault that he is stuck with a job he hates.

Mrs.G123

morrkim:

Mrs.G123:

That sucks. But adults don't quit jobs over having to work a holiday.

its not just this it's a lot of things.  They treat their employees like cr*p.  He wanted to leave before this, but we decided to wait another year to save more money.  It's also that he is the only person whose schedule got changed to work it.  Everyone else kept the same schedule or it got changed so they are off.  Also it's the fact that he is scheduled 50 hours.  He is not going to just quit, but he wants to and we can't because of my job. 

Being unhappy at work is awful. I hope it gets better/ you guys can relocate.

BabyCarryingVessel

So sorry he's stuck in this situation. Hopefully you'll be able to make that transition next year. Just be there for him and let him vent, then you can vent to us! Hugs lady!

Sillygirl85

ThisIsBrea:

morrkim:

mbm1983:

Yeah but rationally speaking. Being scheduled on your off day shouldnt be the straw that broke the camels back when A, hes the high earner, B, they cant afford to live without his salary, or C, they have to now pay if they want to move because of her contract. Unless they can live without his salary for a while, he probably needs to just deal. But hey by all means quit if you feel so inclined. Its no difference to me.

. He won't, but I just needed to vent because I feel likes it my fault that he is stuck with a job he hates.

It's not your fault. Don't feel that way. My DH hates his job too, and he can't leave it because he supports us right now. We're working to make things better, but it's a process and patience is hard when you're miserable. Hang in there. Things will work out.  

Make the decision now that this will be the last year. Come next June you can resign and you both can make the move. My husband waited two years for me to finish my education so that we could move and he could get a job in his field. I gave up an easy move into a teaching job in the district I worked in for three years for him. But I know I will find something else and he needs to have the opportunity to have a job he likes too, but sometimes we have to stick out a bad situation in order to get somewhere better.

Also, the job that my husband currently works at lost the paper work, that he submitted in March for our Vacation that we are taking in mid July.