86 year olds on FB

ravenclaw1

It was a widely broadcasted rule that our pregnancy is not for Facebook. Since telling the family at 13 weeks, everybody has respected that.

Until this week. My grandma posted something about finishing a baby quilt for me before my shower this weekend. She didn't tag me, so it didn't post to my wall, but I'm still really upset about it. Do I just let it go, since anyone we overlap with, friend wise, already knows? Or do I need to have a chat with her about it?

I got more upset about it than I thought I would. Harrumph. That's why people in their 80's don't belong on social networking sites.

Ironmom2be

I dealt with this with my own mom! And I chose to talk to her about it she actually did it twice. Ugh! Happened mothers day weekend, talk about shiiittty timing.
Anyway, we had an adult conversation about it. If she was my grandmother, I might let it go. But what a bummer. I'm sorry she did that to you. It sucks when loved ones can't respect your wishes.

lrichmond86

Let it go. I've made it very clear that we will not be coming out on fb and I've still had several friends and relatives post about it. Is it inconsiderate? Yes. Did she mean to be? Probably not. She's most likely just really excited. And let's face it... how many fb friends does an 80 something year old have? Lol

74dragonfly

I'd let it ok. She is 86. It is sweet she is making the baby something. Besides you did people already know.

kread8

lrichmond86:

Let it go. I've made it very clear that we will not be coming out on fb and I've still had several friends and relatives post about it. Is it inconsiderate? Yes. Did she mean to be? Probably not. She's most likely just really excited. And let's face it... how many fb friends does an 80 something year old have? Lol

This. I know it's annoying but I don't think it's worth saying anything to her about it at this point. Like you said, the overlapping friends you have all know so she isn't letting the cat out of the bag, so to speak.

And I realize the irony in me saying that. My FIL posted on FB that we were KU when I was only 9 weeks. I was pissssssssssed.

HopingforChange

Since she's 86 and your grandma, I think you just have to let it go. I am sure she didn't understand that she was breaching social etiquette. She is probably just really happy for you.

mightymousy

Aww *HUGS* sorry it upset you that would be frustrating. I'd probably just let it go but I seriously hate confrontation.

katharine25

lrichmond86:

Let it go. I've made it very clear that we will not be coming out on fb and I've still had several friends and relatives post about it. Is it inconsiderate? Yes. Did she mean to be? Probably not. She's most likely just really excited. And let's face it... how many fb friends does an 80 something year old have? Lol

I'm going to agree with this. If you were 7 weeks, the. Grandma would deserve a talking to, but you're getting close every day to bringing this LO home. Grandma's excited, and senile. And she's probably told everyone on her newsfeed in person or on the phone 100 times anyways.

I went through this with my mother... After a certain point I just let it go and let her have her fun.

JenL12345

My grandma outed me on Facebook at 8 weeks- I just don't think they understand it all. 

Loveniz

I would let it go. As she's your elderly grandmother, had no intent on hurting you and sounds like she's just excited for you. Also, everyone on her FB already knows and your in the 3rd trimester or near it....if you were 8 weeks or so that's different. I hope you enjoy your shower this weekend. 

ShhItsASecret

Ugh! This is one of those things that really ticks me off, why can't people respect others wishes?! My FIL almost outed me this weekend because he was talking about the 4th of July and was like "ohhh the bar will be socked not that it matters to you wink wink" I was livid! Thankfully I was on and saw it almost immediately and I deleted it and then sent him a message asking him NOT to post anything again because it was not anyone's place but mine to do so.

LAMCH1980

katharine25:

lrichmond86:

Let it go. I've made it very clear that we will not be coming out on fb and I've still had several friends and relatives post about it. Is it inconsiderate? Yes. Did she mean to be? Probably not. She's most likely just really excited. And let's face it... how many fb friends does an 80 something year old have? Lol

I'm going to agree with this. If you were 7 weeks, the. Grandma would deserve a talking to, but you're getting close every day to bringing this LO home. Grandma's excited, and senile. And she's probably told everyone on her newsfeed in person or on the phone 100 times anyways. I went through this with my mother... After a certain point I just let it go and let her have her fun.

 

I agree with these girls. I'd let it go at this point.  I'm impressed she's on FB.  My mom doesn't even have a computer!