stuck with name

elizacb

So my husband's name is Robert, his father's name is Robert so naturally he's gunning for our son to be named Robert.  I was against it, but in October his dad died kind of suddenly so I now I feel locked into Robert as the first name (I've tried shifting it to the middle name but he's not having it!) So with Robert as the first name, at this point I feel like Joseph should be his middle b/c it's my Dad's name. That makes our baby Robert Joseph but what do we call him?

Bob (that's why I call my husband)

Rob (that was my father in law's name and I was not a big fan)

Bobby?

Robby?

Joe?

RJ?

BJ?  

 

Help!  

theimpossibleastronaut

My brother is a Robert and I called him Robbie growing up. He goes by Rob now. I think RJ is cute!

Belle3184

I think Robby is great for a kid, and then he will probably want to switch to Rob at some point.

Dr.Loretta

I wouldn't stress about it now. Let a NN flow naturally once his personality emerges.

FWIW, one of my relatives was supposed to be either Robert Joseph or Barbara Jo, and her parents called her Bobby/ie before she was born. Afterward, only her full name really fit her.

I like Robert Joseph, and I think it's a lovely way to honor your father.

+ASH+

I like just calling him Robert (I don't subscribe to the 'every name needs a nickname' philosophy). 

That being said - this is your child too. If my husband had demanded a name that I didn't want, I would have put my foot down and said no, and then made the concession of middle name or nothing. I'm all for family names and traditions, but as long as there is mutual agreement between the parents. 

Coll910

I think RJ is really cute, but I would also have to agree with pp that you should wait for baby to arrive. You might think you like a NN now but that may change when he's here.

Ewych82

I like the name Robert Joseph. I don't see anything wrong with just calling him Robert, but I do like Robbie or Bobby.

Fluffycakes

I agree with pp's comments that a nn can happen organically, no need to worry about it too much now.  You and your DH (or other family members) may even end up calling him by different nn.  For example, you may end up calling him Bobby and your DH may call him Junior.  

My faves are RJ and BJ, super cute. 

rlyttle

Why not just call him Robert?

SuperMom17

+ASH+:

I like just calling him Robert (I don't subscribe to the 'every name needs a nickname' philosophy). 

That being said - this is your child too. If my husband had demanded a name that I didn't want, I would have put my foot down and said no, and then made the concession of middle name or nothing. I'm all for family names and traditions, but as long as there is mutual agreement between the parents. 

 

agree with all of this.  But I totally see why you are sort of locked in... That's a tough one. 

saham07

You could name him Robert Joseph and call him Joey or Joseph.

i also like Robert with no nn 

BulgariHeart

Robert is a beautiful name but I wouldn't let anything lock me into naming my child something I wasn't completely head over heels for. 

JacklovesSarah

Just don't call him BJ...

JMU_Bride09

ASH:

I like just calling him Robert I don't subscribe to the 'every name needs a nickname' philosophy.nbsp;That being said this is your child too. If my husband had demanded a name that I didn't want, I would have put my foot down and said no, and then made the concession of middle name or nothing. I'm all for family names and traditions, but as long as there is mutual agreement between the parents.nbsp;

This exactly

mummalove

I think bobby and rj are cute.

please steer clear of bj!!

Vraechel

I like The name. I love Joseph probably because it was my dads name.  Vote Robby if you feel he needs a nickname .

love4b

JacklovesSarah:

Just don't call him BJ...

Ha! This!  

 

Mrs.G123

minxyglams:

JacklovesSarah:

Just don't call him BJ...

Ha! This!  

 

This!

brookelynpaisley

I prefer Rob, maybe Robby. Or he could go by Joseph with whichever NN you like. I also prefer not feeling stuck with a name and would fight tooth and nail to put Robert as the MN, explaining that is still an honor name and an important name to pass on, but emphasizing that your son will be his own person while honoring his family with his middle name. 

meredity11

We had a similar situation with my DS. No death thankfully but he is the third one. We added a middle name so he is not technically the third.
In my opinion when my husband decided he wanted to use that name it was a done deal. In fact I told him from the beginning if we had a boy that was his call. Now I happened to love his name, so that changes things a bit. My DS is now a year and we are still working on what we are going to call him at home but in the outside world he will always be his actual name, no nicknames.

divinemsbee

I adore Bobby. But I also love Jack for John.

kelseypie

rlyttle:

Why not just call him Robert?

This! Or you could always go with Bert.

notkateanymore

I actually love the name Robert Joseph. It's a great boy name. 

But never ever call your child BJ. Just no. I like Rob best. 

sexyntexy

Trey for third. :

llpcrash2

I would have been in a slightly similar situation if we were having a boy, so I looked around and found Bo as an occasionally used NN for Robert. I really like it, neat meaning in a few different languages.