DH and diaper changes

mon.petit.chou

Do your DHs really not change many diapers? My H has probably changed just as many dipes as I have, if not more. This even counts the first 12 weeks I was home with the baby. DH did all evening and MOTN changes then, and now that I'm back at work we split up the changes pretty evenly. He even helps me stuff pockets. BFing is obviously something only I can do, but diaper changing is an equal opportunity task.

ABColeslaw

I have def changed way more dipers that my H, but like previous poster said, My H works very long hours in a dangerous job.  So night duty is not something he can do often.  He also gets zero paternity leave.  Like a couple sick days and that is it.

mon.petit.chou

I see, my H works a desk job, so it's different I guess. Ironically, while I was on maternity leave, he got up with me for every MOTN feeding and changed LO while I got ready to nurse. Now that I'm back at work, we've stopped changing LO during the night, so I'm the only one who gets up to feed him.

Aurora_Borealis

Not anymore. DH took a month off work when DD was born and did a lot of the diapering (plus all of the diaper laundry, household chores and cooking because I had a crazy complication and a very difficult recovery) during that time. He certainly did not get up in the MOTN for feedings and changes unless I needed his help. I EBF'd and to me it didn't make sense for both parents to be up and not sleeping, especially after he went back to work. I could nap during her naps during the day if I needed, whereas he did not have that option.

And now, nearly a year-and-a-half in, I SAH so, yeah I do most of the diapering and diaper laundry. DH is definitely not anti-diaper duty...it's just that he's not home for a lot of diaper changes.

MrsRiceARoni

MH will change some diapers, maybe 5-10 a week or so sometimes more sometimes less. If I'm busy making dinner or something and I ask him to change her diaper he'll usually do it if he isn't busy but I SAH so I generally just do it myself. I did try getting him to help with them more for motn changes so I could get ready to nurse her earlier on but it just seemed like more work, by the time I'd wake him up (since he'd sleep through her crying) I could have already changed her. He does help with other things, we do bath time together and he lotions and dresses her for bed while I get set up to feed her. He's also been helpful recently with getting up to put her back to sleep if she wakes up extra times at night as we were trying to cut out some of her motn feedings.

skrap

If my husband is home or out with us, he changes our son's diaper. This includes MOTN if necessary, though it typically isn't. I EBF so he takes the diaper changes when he can.

freezorburn

DH just isn't home much during the week, due to travel and long hours. But when he is home and especially if he's supposed to be watching DS to give me a break, he will change diapers.

robyn2201

I would say it's pretty even. He is a SAHD so he changes diapers all day. I do all the diaper changes in the evenings and weekends.

mrsnorthernbell

I do all diaper changes and diaper laundry. I sah but still do it in the evenings and weekends. If I'm not home obviously dh will change the diapers. It's been over 2 years of cloth diapering and dh still doesn't like it. He will always use a disposable. I don't mind. He doesn't argue with me about it and I can buy whatever I want.

bookworm982

I'm a SAHM, so I do all the daytime diaper changes. We split evening and weekend diaper changes fairly evenly. DH will wash and stuff diapers, but I normally get that done during his work hours since I recently switched to washing in the morning. There isn't anything cloth diaper related that I'm better at than DH. I do the research, but DH learns whatever I share.

During the newborn stage when we were both home full time, DH changed way more diapers thanks to a rule that he learned at our breastfeeding class: "What mommy puts in, daddy takes out." I won't expect him to do middle of the night changes when DS, but that was sure nice with DD when I was recovering since it meant I never had to get out of bed. (Come September when DS arrives, DH gets DD duty IF she gets up, and I'll get DS duty WHEN he gets up. Since DH cannot breastfeed, it seems like a fair deal.)

ForeverEverAfter

I've definitely done more than DH because I have a year mat leave, so Im home with her all day. DH cant be sleep deprived at work (pilot) so he never wakes MOTN. In fact, if she's been waking more than once he sleeps in the guest room. I BF though so I have to feed her anyway. When DH is home it's evenly split though, and he may even do more than me then.

He really likes our cloth and shows it off to everyone. He picked a lot of the colours and prints for our pockets. I picked up a pack of sposies for his family's cottage trip in a couple of weeks and he told me to just return them, that there's coin laundry at the main building I can use. I had to remind him that we need them for the travel days anyway, but I couldn't believe the reaction! I figured I'd have to beg to take cloth along to use for the last few days!

littleredfish

When we're both home it's typically me. On weekends I work he has her all day and changes her obviously. During the week we both work so usually I change her in the morning before daycare, they change her all day, he picks her up so he changes her before I get home and I put her in her nighttime diaper.  He has no issues changing diapers but just because as a person I'm more on top of things and prefer to "do it myself" than ask others, I'd say our diaper change ratio is about 70% me to 30% DH.

DiannaVB

We keep things pretty equal. MOTH wake ups depended on who had to get up earlier the next day.

Wish82

stackie16:

My DH has been all in helpful. I think he likes changing her sometimes since he can't do much more when I feed her.

this is us. H hates he can't feed Jack, so he likes to take on other responsibilities. I do all the MOTN changes right now, though. I figure I have to be up anyway to feed, there's no reason for both of us to be up.  

nanabanana06

DH only changes when he has to, and only is there's a pre stuffed pocket for him.

runningyogimama

It's pretty even. I'm home with her during the day, he changes her when I work nights or weekends, and it's pretty evenly split when we're both home. And...I have one of those magic unicorn babies who started STTN at 3 weeks, so no MOTN stuff.

tokenhoser

When he's home, he does at least half... but I was home for a year and he was at work. I've definitely done a lot more than he has.

I have done 99% of the diaper laundry and pocket stuffing, but cloth diapers were my idea and again, I was home so I did more of the house work stuff as well.

People do what works for them... but I'm glad DH does diapers too.

MyNameWasTaken

Well, yeah, I've done the majority of diaper changing; I'm a SAHM, and DH works long hours, so I'm at home with her all day. He comes home and gets to spend 2 hours with her. No big surprise that I'm the primary diaper changer. As for when I was changing her diapers overnight, well, again, he works, I don't, and I already had to get up to nurse DD, so I never felt compelled to make him get up, too. Not to say that DH has never done it, or is opposed to it--he has, and he's not. But this arrangement was easiest, so it's what we've done and I see no reason to change it.