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SimpleJane

All I want is a little house of my own. Just big enough for us. Maybe a little tree in a little yard. Happy little healthy kids, who I can afford to feed and buy clothes for and provide opportunities like college. I want to pay my bills and still have enough left over for cute shoes.

I work my azz off. I cut hair, on my feet, on a concrete floor, 40 hours per week, dealing with nasty smelling rude people all day every day. I just got my check for the past 15 days and it will barely cover my half of the rent. I will have 45 dollars left over. If not for CS I couldn't even feed us the rest of the two weeks until I get paid again, let alone my other bills.

I hate the position I put myself in before my divorce that set me up to struggle so much after getting divorced. I'm so pissed at myself.

ambrvan

Hindsight is 20 20. I know how you feel. Just keep trucking on. Eventually, one day you'll get there. At least, that's what I keep telling myself. Honestly, though, without this board to whine to over the last few months I think I would have just laid down and died.

Lots of virtual hugs.

twister22

Is there someone you can live with rent-free until you get yourself in a better position? Like family or a good friend? And have an end date in mind so everyone's on the same page? Or maybe start applying to work at a higher end hair salon?

If DH & I were to divorce today I'm not sure what I would do in regards to finances. I would probably move in with my parents and go back to school for a marketable degree.

What a sucky situation . T&Ps your way. 

HChad

T & P's.  I feel the same way.  We're hoping things get better in the next few years. Two adults, a dog and a cat is very cozy in a one bedroom apartment.

SimpleJane

twister22:

Is there someone you can live with rentfree until you get yourself in a better position? Like family or a good friend? And have an end date in mind so everyone's on the same page? Or maybe start applying to work at a higher end hair salon?If DH amp; I were to divorce today I'm not sure what I would do in regards to finances. I would probably move in with my parents and go back to school for a marketable degree.What a sucky situation . Tamp;Ps your way.nbsp;

Unfortunately my whole family is 2.5 to 3 hours away. I share custody with XH 4 nights with me, 3 nights with him, so there is no possible way to move home. Plus DS is enrolled in my school district, which is one of the best in the state.

I work on commission, and the summer is very slow. I do well enough in the winter, but summer is killing me.

I'm just mad that I blissfully put off my education to get married and SAH. Well then when divorce happens I end up going from a middle class family SAHM, to a full time working mom who only gets her kids 4 days a week and can't make ends meet enough to stay off foodstamps and assistance. I'm literally thinking about applying to low income housing in the area. How the eff did I get to this point?

Blah. I guess I need to be job shopping at this point, but in my area you aren't going to find a salon job that makes more than me. I'm going to have to be looking at something else.

Mysterious_wife

Have you tried looking into local organizations that help low income families? They could help you get on your feet and find a cheaper home. Good luck. I wish you the best.

Nineoceans

I feel ya. The other day I was feeling really disappointed about where I am in my life. Living in the same house I bought at 21, not making big money, stuck in this stupid town because of Dhs custody.

Sometimes it's good to just get it all out. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you

CurlyQ284

I don't know a whole lot about the industry but I've been with my hairdresser for 16 years, since I was 12. She has worked at some crappy places that took a lot of her money but 7 years ago she closed in her screened in porch and made that into a salon so she works out of her house. I pay about 50 for a haircut and 150 for highlights and she pockets all of it since she doesn't work at a salon.

Do you have a space at home to work? Or is there a city nearby that you could commute to and make more money? I'm sorry :

Alohalove

"If you're going through hell, keep going." Winston Churchill

2chatter

I second Curly.  SIL has a space in their back living room with the three way mirror set up to sort of divide the space, a hair cut chair and a rolling plastic supply cart. 

I sometimes wonder how to tell SD that she needs to get a good education.  BM quit her job when she and DH seperated and hasn't been motivated to look.  It's been a long time and she lacks a degree, so she cannot find anything.  SD wants to major in fashion merchandising, travel and then get married and stay home.  Not exactly the kind of "career path" from which she can rebound if needed.  What do you/will you tell your children?