Three ring circus! Vent!

KELLILOVESJOSH

Yep that's what it feels like around here. I work from home as a real estate agent, I'm in school working on my appraisers and brokers license. I have a 7 year old, an 18 month old and one on the way. My DH works 21 days on 21 off but when he's home he's not much help with the kids, stays busy outside working on things for the house. I'm just tired and overwhelmed. My mom helps on Mondays and some Tuesdays when DH is working but I feel guilty for asking her because sometime I have to drop them off without much notice in the evenings for a few hours to go show houses. On top of all that I home school..Since most of my work is in the evenings and weekends it's not a big conflict, but in the summer I am so busy! Also we love on a tournament ski lake and I try to help with those tournaments. And just about once a month someone asks me to do a painting or something creative for a gift or whatever. Which I love! I just wish I weren't overwhelmed. Feel like I could cry right now because I'm behind on laundry. And I want to see my baby brother ..well my big strong marine brother who just moved to FL..k I'm done crying for now lol

cwm11985

It seems that you could cut out things like helping with the tournament to help your feelings of being overwhelmed... Just sayin...

thedash

It sounds like you are doing at least two full-time jobs plus a few part-time as well. Realtor and SAHM/homeschool teacher plus student, artist, etc. I'm not surprised you are overwhelmed and in your shoes I would say something has to change soon.

KELLILOVESJOSH

Yeah I just have to stop feeling guilty about not being able to do everything. I'm not doing much with the tournament this year and I've decided that I'm going to extend my classes out instead of trying to do them all this summer. DD and I will just have to learn together during the school year. I just needed to vent! Thanks y'all. Hope everyone is having a good Summer!

jeapplegate

Why isn't your H helping more? 

KELLILOVESJOSH

Well I could go on a rant just about that but in short he feels like doing all the yard work, home and vehicle maintenance is enough..he'll do my honey do list stuff like he cleaned my ceiling fans. But I've just always done everything without complaining or asking for help

dragon_chica

- Stop being a mommy martyr

- It's time to have a serious talk with your DH

Virgo17

I agree with PPs about DH helping out more.  If my DH worked 21 days straight, he better be doing as much as he can during those 21 days off.  What kind of shift does he work?  It it's a normal 9-5 type of deal, then he can be helping on days he is working too.

I also think you have way too much going on.  You need to think about what is important and prioritize those commitments.

KELLILOVESJOSH

Yeah he's gone nights and days for 21 and home with nothing to do for 21..so basically I'm a single mom half the year. I think I need to hire an assistant, that might wake him up haha.

MammaBear81

dragon_chica:

- Stop being a mommy martyr

- It's time to have a serious talk with your DH

This, when he's home, he needs to be "present", just because you do it yourself when he's away for 21 days doesn't mean you should do it when he's home too.