2+ moms

ladybugpjb

I posted awhile ago about missing my time with DS. Today it is really hitting me again.

If you had the same feelings, how long does it last? Is it just residual hormones? I vaguely remember missing DH the same way (ie, missing it being just the two of us) after DS was born, but that was also because DH deployed right after DS's birth and we just had a lot of crazy stuff going on.

I just feel really miserable about it today. I know I felt better with DS around the 5-6 month mark and life in general got less crazy (I'd finished my MA, I stopped EPing and began FF), but 6 months just seems like such a long time right now.

BnchaNums

I have no advice, but I have definitely been having low hormone days where I feel overwhelmed and feel my pp OCD act up. If it doesn't pass in the next week or so ill go see my dr.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

I have days like that for sure.

Like this weekend, DD1 asked to nap with me. I used to ask her if she wanted to nap together and she'd say no, and it just breaks my heart that now that she wants it and is obviously looking for a little mommy love, I can't give it to her  

StefandTodd

Hugs, that's so hard.  Whenever I could, I took advantage of the baby sleeping to soak up my time with my oldest.  Also helpful was when my husband could take the baby and I could do bedtime alone with my oldest.  Now that the baby is 6 months (it comes so much faster than you can imagine, I promise!!), I have started being able to do more and more one on one with my big guy and it is so nice.  You'll get there.  More hugs!

melissa0726

Awww, ladybug, I'm definitely feeling the same way.  I go from one extreme to the next - -  wanting DH to take DD1 and do things with her to give me a rest, and then feeling upset/sad/jealous at all the fun they are having and being upset that I'm not with her. 

It is hard not to miss how things were when it was just us, but I'm sure that in no time our families of 4 will feel like the norm!  Big hugs!