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Babies on the Brain
My IL's are coming...
...and I couldn't be happier!
I absolutely LOVE my IL's, and miss them so much! They moved out of state 3 years ago when FIL retired, and we only get to see them once a year, twice if we're reeeeally lucky. The best part is they'll be here for my birthday! Yay!
I feel so lucky that I have such a great relationship with them, and that my family adores my DH as much as I do. Having two big happy families is awesome!
Just wanted to share my happiness, but I wonder, what is your relationship with your IL's like?
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Re: My IL's are coming...
I have the worlds greatest inlaws!
We live 10ft away and we farm together so we have constant contact. We have our frustrating business moments but we get through them.
They are always generous and giving and I love that my kids get to grow up next door.
That is what we are planning on doing!
We bought a house 3 years ago, and once we can make enough off it we will be moving out to where they are and the four of us want to buy acreage together and start a hobby farm! We all got tired of the busy city life and want a change of pace. Plus I can't think of a better childhood for my future LO. I grew up on acreage with all kinds of critters and want the same for my child. My FIL grew up on a dairy farm and my H spent his summers helping out, so we all want to be a little more self sufficient. I can't wait! I'm jealous you're already living my dream lol.
I'm glad you are excited for company.
MIL is a very nice person, but just very different from me. She's pretty mousey? Prior to my joining the family, get togethers meant a meal and then tv watching. I detest tv and since we have LOs we don't have the tv on. I figure BIL is sitting there going- evil b****, it's your fault we don't have the tv on. However, I've never said anything about it and DH says he hasn't either. It was a choice she made on her own.
FIL and DH were estranged for like the first 21 years of his life, and have seen each other about once a year since then, so the relationship is still in the building phase. I can have a good time when we're together, but every now and then I remember what an insane a$$munch he was for abandoning his family. Plus, he's like the cheapest man on the face of the earth, so it's always awkward when we hang out.
Ironically, I've always had great relationships with the families of the men I dated. It makes me sad that we don't have more fun with my inlaws.
I have 2 sets of IL's. FIL and SMIL are fantastic and everything I could ask for in IL's. Always there when we need them to be but don't offer unsolicited advice.
MIL and SFIL are the opposite.
OP, isn't it great to get along with the in laws? I adore my in laws! They just moved back to the states from the UK. We live about 2 miles apart, and it's been wonderful.
My relationship with the ILs is pretty much terrible. My MIL came on really strong at first, and was really great, until we got engaged.
And then I found out, she's not on my side...at all. I told her something about a change in wedding plans in what I thought was confidence -- and she immediately called my mother, who called me to give me an earful on why that was a bad idea. The worst part was, my MIL got it all wrong and made it worse than it really was.
Over the course of our marriage, I learned this was pretty much par for the course - anything you tell her will be repeated with at least two errors.
Once we were married, she started "saving" things for our future kids. At the time, we weren't even sure we wanted any kids, ever. When I declined her offers, I was always met with, "But you're gonna hafta get one someday," or "You're just gonna hafta..." She was horrible about telling me exactly how to live my life, and I did my best to take it with a smile.
But then my BIL met his now wife. SIL is the perfect daughter-in-law, according to the speech my FIL gave at the wedding in April. She goes shopping with MIL, goes to all the family events, helps with parties at their house, and has them over for dinner all the time. Here's the thing: BIL & SIL live 10 minutes from the ILs. We live a three day drive/three hour flight away from them. I can't do those things unless I'm visiting them, and our short time there is usually too jam packed for stuff like parties and shopping. And the family events? Always on a Sunday NIGHT. Pretty tough to get back for work on Monday when the first flight back doesn't get us in until 10 a.m.
The only upside to SIL being the perfect daughter-in-law is that I pretty much get ignored. It's much better this way.
I can't imagine it any other way. I feel completely relaxed around them, love spending time with them, and can't wait to live near them again.
Just to put it into perspective, I went to a pole dancing class with my MIL, and it was so much fun! Her comment was, "No wonder my Son loves you so much!" Ha!
I'm so blessed to have a good relationship with my IL's.
My DH and I were together 5 years before getting married and I was treated like family the day I started dating him. MIL and FIL are divorced, but SMIL is super nice. My MIL and FIL never had any girls so I am treated like the daughter they never had. They are both super funny people, helpful but not intrusive.
My BIL's are like my brothers and I love their significant others as well
I can't wait to give them a grandchild!