VENT: about work, suggestions welcome

meganreilly

This is going to be a long get of my chest vent session. Hubby is deployed so you guys get to hear me complain instead of him .
 I work in the construction industry (read: all male) and at a very small company. So it is exempt from FMLA. I work my off and set the bar very high from day one because that's just my personality. I get great encouragement that I am "an all star" "best employee" etc from everyone. Which would be great if they actually acted on the fact that I am so great instead of having me paid $15,000 less then everyone else (their reasoning? because everyone else has more experience, which is not true they trained 3 of the people to do their jobs, but I am 24 and everyone else is in their 40s, experience=age in this one. AWESOME oh and I have a degree in what I do, no one else here has any education) So I work my off do great their best employee blah blah but doesn't pay out or get me rewarded. I found out I was pregnant unexpectedly 3 weeks before my hubby deployed. I told them at work to gauge how it would go. Such a small company two bosses are brothers, accountant is ones wife. (the ones with kids bring them into work when they are out of school bc they are to young to stay at home keep in mind) so wife is super excited said they will do what ever I need, and that I can take off what ever time I need, and if I am ready to com back and need to bring baby with me that's fine, its what she did (have no family around to help being military) So I thought GREAT! Then I started getting sh*t from boss with no kids because he doesn't like them. He started making comments like "how long will you be gone? cant you just leave the kid at home in a cage" (seriously hope he was joking) then another kid who sucks and he is always complaining about is being offered a position I was told I would get when I got hired on when they had space for it. So I asked him about it, whelp I don't get it because he's concerned about the time I will need off with the new baby so  I am being passed up. (yes I know this is illegal) I work over 45 hours a week and don't take lunch breaks because I am usually busy/ they always randomly need things from me. He has been making comments when I go to a doc apt (keep in mind doc apt included I am still working over 40 hours that week which my salary is only for 40) "wish I could take as much time off as you" "how many of those things do you have to go to" etc.  This is on top of some other comments that have been made that are just out of line/ EXTERME double standard. Now everyone else is great but he is posing such a problem with me being pregnant I am at my wits end and for see a very violent I QUIT moment with all these hormones and my lack of ability to not tell people with they are being dumbasses.  Any suggestions on how to deal with this, how you worked through holes at work would be great!!!!!!

 

Really  need to keep the job. Looking at other jobs but know being hired when pregnant is rare to happen =/.

 

Thanks for letting me vent an any suggestions!

jnealet

Wow!  I don't get why people think they can do things like this.  Can you talk to the wife or the other partner and tell them of the issues?

Other than that, I would keep track of your work schedule/timeliness of things and if he gives you grief, show him and ask where the problem is.

AZ123

First and foremost, I think you need set in writing how long you'll be out on maternity leave, whether it is paid or not paid, etc. Set the details. Second, don't let this guy and his comments get to you. Do your best and forget the rest. Focus on the baby. once you have that baby, this job won't seem as important. I know you're stuck in the midst of it now, but you need to start puling away. You've done a good job as an employee and I think you need to just be confident in that.

Start documenting just in case.

2chatter

In my experience, salary means you work as many hours as you need to work over 40 and receive no additional compensation. 

Being hired while pregnant totally happens - don't let that stand in your way. Get out of that place, the salary item aside.