This makes me sad

WashingtonQueen

It makes me sad that someone actually considers all of these "gender-neutral". Sigh

https://thestir.cafemom.com/pregnancy/157282/25_best_genderneutral_baby_names?utm_medium=sm&utm_source=facebook&utm_content=beingamom_fanpage

mommygrams0730

I actually think the first 10 to 15 names are pretty accurate. Past that I side eyed quite a few...some I see more as nick names rather than a stand alone neutral name.

SoonToBeRCarlin

I was just going through this list thinking 'No, no, no, no, no" geez. Poor kids.

mmb248

Other than the fact that I consider Charlie, Drew, Andy and Bobby to be nicknames, I think all the names on the list are gender neutral.

OP - do you think that the list went too far or played it too safe?

ETA:  I know men and women with over half the names on this list.

KallieandJustin

I had more entertainment reading the comments rather than the actual name list. Yikes!

stahlop

There is only one name on this list that I haven't met a person by that name and that is Finley.

BootsyLou

I think that list is pretty accurate for general neutral names.  

WashingtonQueen

I'm in the "putting a boy name on a girl does not make it gender neutral" camp.

rolIo

This was one of the comments:

"My 7 month old daughter's name is Huntyr (said like Hunter) and I haven't found one person who doesn't love it!!!"

 

I bet if she would have asked for opinions on this board she would.

 

annieravensfan528

I would feel bad for a girl named Dallas.

Drew and Andy make me sad too, DH's name is Andrew and it's on the list for a future LO. We would call him Drew, hopefully that one doesn't go too much to the girls. >:( Reed is pretty bad too. 

Not gonna lie, I like Quinn and Rory on girls. *hangs head in shame*

 

mmb248

MommyLizzy:

mmb248:

Other than the fact that I consider Charlie, Drew, Andy and Bobby to be nicknames, I think all the names on the list are gender neutral.

OP - do you think that the list went too far or played it too safe?

ETA:  I know men and women with over half the names on this list.

I was thinking the same thing.  But I also have a boy named Skylar, which a lot of people consider more of a girl name. 

I can't imagine a boy named Sage though. 

I went to college with a Sage. He was gorgeous.  6'4", blonde, green eyes, body to die for... Sigh. 

Of course, he also had a sister named Rosemary and his dad's name was Herb.

Keri Marie

Agreed. That list is awful. 

3 of those names are unisex.

People are just dumb. 

+ASH+

I actually think the list is very tame. I've heard all of those names on people of both genders and all ages. Didn't see anything horrible. 

WashingtonQueen

Rory? Carson? Dallas? Reed? Drew? Kyle? Shane?

Horrible, just horrible.

WashingtonQueen

mmb248:

I went to college with a Sage. He was gorgeous.  6'4", blonde, green eyes, body to die for... Sigh. 

Of course, he also had a sister named Rosemary and his dad's name was Herb.

LOL!!

mmb248

WashingtonQueen:

Rory? Carson? Dallas? Reed? Drew? Kyle? Shane?

Horrible, just horrible.

Okay, I must be dumb, because while I realize that Kyle, Drew and Shane are typically male names, I'm seriously confused on the others.  The only Rory I know is from the Gilmore Girls, so I assume it's a girls name but when I look it up on baby names, it's listed as a boys name.

As for Carson and Dallas; Carson Daly is a boy, but the first time I heard the name it was a girl in the movie Shag and I went to school with a girl named Carson.  My uncle's name is Dallas, but I know 2 women named Dallas (and honestly, my issues with that name are the fact that it's Western inspired).

Also - every Reed I've ever met is a woman, but I've read it as a boy's name in books so honestly I don't know.  Plus, there's a song called Elizabeth Reed so I've always associated it with women.

BootsyLou

I think we've established that many people are annoyed by the putting boy names on girls thing.  So tired of talking/hearing  about it.  I don't care for it but it is what it is and it's not going anywhere.  

PnkBride

My daughter is Rory Nicole and she is 30. Errol Flynn named his daughter Rory back in the 40's.  Also, one of the Kennedy granddaughter's is named Rory (she is a documentary film maker).

I have always loved the name for girls and boys. It has become much more popular for girls since the Gilmore Girls television series.

For a girl, my two favorites are:

Rory Nicole (of course, since it is my daughter's name)

Rory Elizabeth

 

sunlavender

There are quite a few I wouldn't consider gender neutral at all.

rolIo

mmb248:

MommyLizzy:

mmb248:

Other than the fact that I consider Charlie, Drew, Andy and Bobby to be nicknames, I think all the names on the list are gender neutral.

OP - do you think that the list went too far or played it too safe?

ETA:  I know men and women with over half the names on this list.

I was thinking the same thing.  But I also have a boy named Skylar, which a lot of people consider more of a girl name. 

I can't imagine a boy named Sage though. 

I went to college with a Sage. He was gorgeous.  6'4", blonde, green eyes, body to die for... Sigh. 

Of course, he also had a sister named Rosemary and his dad's name was Herb.

Oh my god. On that note, I think Basil is a cool name.

mmb248

rolIo:

mmb248:

I went to college with a Sage. He was gorgeous.  6'4", blonde, green eyes, body to die for... Sigh. 

Of course, he also had a sister named Rosemary and his dad's name was Herb.

Oh my god. On that note, I think Basil is a cool name.

Sage used to say that he liked the name Coriander and would call the kid Cori.  Not sure if he meant for a boy or girl.  I just hope no on in the family winds up with the name Parsley.

arizonatea

I thought all of these were gender neutral except for Reed and Dallas. What was wrong with it? I actually new an older lady from the Midwest that went by Bobby and her name was really Barbara.

Whitterpow

Gender neutral names have ruined my baby naming experience. All these boy names I like have been taken over by parents who decided to name their daughters a boy name.

Edited: there would be quotation marks around gender neutral if my mobile app wouldn't delete them.

thatoneredhead

arizonatea:

I thought all of these were gender neutral except for Reed and Dallas. What was wrong with it? I actually new an older lady from the Midwest that went by Bobby and her name was really Barbara.

The Bump isnt huge on boy names/ gender neutral names. I dont mind 'em if they arent cringe worthy

My mom is a Bobbie, her dad and brother are Roberts, and married a Robert- no lie.  No creativity there. And she hates it. 

My stepdad (kinda) has a Randi, a Rhon.e (Ronnie) and I could be a Jessie, so I find that entertaining. 

SRK128

SoonToBeRCarlin:

I was just going through this list thinking 'No, no, no, no, no" geez. Poor kids.

I could not agree more. 

crwel1048

I can see some of them being gender neutral. I completely disagree with others. I guess because I really do not care for gender neutral names.

WashingtonQueen

BootsyLou:

I think we've established that many people are annoyed by the putting boy names on girls thing.  So tired of talking/hearing  about it.  I don't care for it but it is what it is and it's not going anywhere.  

And I am sick to death of people putting boy names on girls. As long as people keep doing it the conversations about it are not going bye-bye either.

+ASH+

WashingtonQueen:

BootsyLou:

I think we've established that many people are annoyed by the putting boy names on girls thing.  So tired of talking/hearing  about it.  I don't care for it but it is what it is and it's not going anywhere.  

And I am sick to death of people putting boy names on girls. As long as people keep doing it the conversations about it are not going bye-bye either.

Fair enough, but not everyone has the same opinion, and that's okay - that is what message boards are about and it would be very boring here if we did all agree! However, this is something that has been around for generations, so it's not going to change. Just like my biggest pet peeves won't be changing either (of which, I have many, but people like what they like).

My daughter has a boys name and it got an overwhelming positive response here (which honestly shocked me). But even if it hadn't, we absolutely love it - the #1 requirement in my book. And all of our kids have family names for fn and mn, so it has a family connection, which was very important to us (it's a variation on a name that was a generational family name used for many family members until my grandfather's era). People who meet her won't know she is the most recent in a long line to have this name, but she will know and will (hopefully) take pride in it . 

Zimger

Joy2611:

I can't even open that link, WQ.  I think I'll just get angry.

Yeah...I can't either. I tried but my brain just put up a wall. 

TripMomma

There were only about 5 names on that list that I didn't agree with.

thegoodpotato

WashingtonQueen:

I'm in the "putting a boy name on a girl does not make it gender neutral" camp.

Yes, yes, yes.  Just because some yahoo used it on a girl does not make it a girl's name. Charlie is a boy's name, or short for Charles. I don't find it a cute girl's name, OR a cute nickname for Charlotte. 

cantsitwithus

No, no, no! Aubrey is gender neutral?

Meery82

BootsyLou:

I think we've established that many people are annoyed by the putting boy names on girls thing.  So tired of talking/hearing  about it.  I don't care for it but it is what it is and it's not going anywhere.  

Then why did you even open the post?

 

I dislike most of those names to begin with, but they are even worse when they belong to a girl! Ick! 

kmpls

I haven't heard Carson, reed, or Shane on girls but the rest are commonly used for boys and girls.

I have no issue with gender neutral names. 

wanderingmama

sehart3478:

No, no, no! Aubrey is gender neutral?

Exactly. It is a man's name used on girls. Not gender neutral at all.

mmb248

wanderingmama:

sehart3478:

No, no, no! Aubrey is gender neutral?

Exactly. It is a man's name used on girls. Not gender neutral at all.

I've never heard Aubrey on a man but I've seen it used for women and girls ages 40 down to 4 months.

Is it possible that some stuff is regional?

wanderingmama

mmb248:

I've never heard Aubrey on a man but I've seen it used for women and girls ages 40 down to 4 months.

Is it possible that some stuff is regional?

Nope was a man's name first. History is most certainly not "regional".
Evelyn, Courtney, Marion, Leslie, Kelly, Shannon and Ashley also started out as men's names, just so you are aware.

indiana101

kmpls:

I haven't heard Carson, reed, or Shane on girls but the rest are commonly used for boys and girls.

I have no issue with gender neutral names. 

Agree with all of this. There are many people who don't mind or even love gender neutral names and have given them to their children. Posts like this seem to be a way of saying 'my names are better than your names'.

mmb248

wanderingmama:

mmb248:

I've never heard Aubrey on a man but I've seen it used for women and girls ages 40 down to 4 months. Is it possible that some stuff is regional?

Nope was a man's name first. History is most certainly not "regional". Evelyn, Courtney, Marion, Leslie, Kelly, Shannon and Ashley also started out as men's names, just so you are aware.

I never said it was historically a woman's name, just that here, it's been used for women since the 70s.  The tone of this thread seemed to suggest that Aubrey is still a boy's name.  Thanks for pointing out those other names.  This actually helps make my point that while some names may have been boy's names in the past, they are now appropriate, if not more common, for girls. 

Around here, Marion is still a fairly popular name for boys, while Marian is considered to be the feminine form (although both are considered unisex.  It's DH's name and if we have a son, Marion will be his middle name.  This is what I meant by regional; how the name is used currently.

MannaPants

WashingtonQueen:

I'm in the "putting a boy name on a girl does not make it gender neutral" camp.

This. I know people of both sexes that have these names (Well, most. A girl named Shane?) but just because people have foisted a boy name on a girl, doesn't make it a  girl name. I think this is one reason there are so many more girl names to choose from than boys! Once the girls have hijacked a name, it's hard for the boys to get it back (Madison, Marion, Leslie, Ashley)

CeCe8579

Some are legit, some are not. They left off the most truly legit unisex names IMO. Shane on a girl....no. Morgan, yes!