Hello?

KingLED

So, I get that the previous group of ladies left for FB, but is there a reason new people can't post here?

Anyways, I don't know if anyone is ever going to see this, but I'm going to put it out there anyway...

How do you decide when to call it quits?  I've been struggling for a long time and finally decided to try again, only to have another loss.  It will primarily depend on the results from the genetic testing, but even if everything comes back normal, I don't know that trying again is a good idea.  I'm so lost right now.  

BrittianyM

So very sorry for your losses. The ladies on the Loss board are very nice and we will all be there to listen if you want to come over. 

LaTi07

I'm very sorry for your losses. The board has become quite quiet, but given the sensitivity of the subject matter, I think it's understandable that the ladies would rather discuss this topic in private. However, I wanted to at least answer your question because I've been there.

Deciding when to stop is a very personal choice. We went back and forth countless times. It was seriously the hardest decision we ever tried to make. Ultimately though, the decision was made for us by the doctors. This decision should not be made lightly. I would recommend taking time right now to just grieve and not even think about trying again. There are so many raw emotions right now that will absolutely affect your thinking.

I would also recommend talking to a counselor about your feelings. Sometimes just having a person to vent to can make all the difference and give you a better frame of mind for making this huge decision. I wish I could say something better, but each person's journey is totally different. Only you can decide when you've had enough. Good luck and many (hugs).

avioletsky

Agreed. This is a very personal decision. And one that you have to feel peace over. Honestly, for us, becoming foster parents for a time helped us experience parenting and really cemented our feelings about being on to be childless and even move towards "childfree".

We really do love kids. If we had our own we know we could handle it. However, after all these years and multiple losses , well, we're really comfortable with it being just us.

Still, there are moments where I daydream. But I no longer feel bitter.