GRRRrrrr

dawnc78

I am so frustrated...

I am helping my MIL throw SIL a baby shower...I bugged her for WEEKS to get the invites out...finally I just went ahead and did everything for those myself... we talked about the theme (a sprinkle, w/ umbrellas) before I did it...the invites have all gone out and I started bugging her to get started on buying things (decorations, plates, utensils etc...) finally I went out with her to get everything. She forgets her purse so I have to charge everything($300)...as soon as we got back she wrote me a check which I then deposited... That was 2 weeks ago and it's 3 weeks 'till the shower. she calls me yesterday to tell me that "I was online looking at baby shower themes and I decided to change EVERYTHING! I want the theme to be eco-friendly" (SIL is REALLY big on Eco-friendly etc.)

I am mad, because

1. now we have to return all the stuff she already bought...it will all go back on my card...and I'll have to pay her back what she already paid me (annoying).

2. I pushed for weeks for her to make some decisions and she kept being all wishy washy...finally picked something and waits two weeks to change her mind... (she does stuff like this all the time)

3. She expects me to help her throw together this shower in three weeks and to be honest I think the new theme is STUPID! it's going to mean a lot more work for her and me and it's going to mean I have to spend MORE time away from my family to help her do this...I just wanna say NO now... NO I won't help you return everything, buy new stuff, go online and search for new Ideas...I just don't wanna!

 

 

 

Katherine

So tell her.  tell her flat out no.  you are sorry she took so long to decide and change her mind but it is too late for you to go and re-plan a shower that is already underway but if she feels the need to go and do so on her own than youwish her the best and you are unfortunately NOT going to be able to help her this late in the game. 

dawnc78

I want to say all of that...but the guilt is killing me!

 

Katherine

DON'T FEEL GUILTY!!  you know better than anyone that your mil will continue to manipulate you and use you as long as you allow her to.  in order for her to stop YOU need to say something to her.  she's a friggen tool.

dawnc78

teehee tool!