Adoption

Agency frustration

So, just had a little chat with our family advocate. And apparently, if one of their emom coordinators attends the birth, to be there to support the emom, it will cost another  $700-1000.00.  Now- I absolutely WANT them to be there to support the emom, I just would have appreciated that fee chunk to have been included in our initial contract with them.

And of course, from everything they said at any of their courses/sessions etc it always sounded like someone from the agency was at the birth. It turns out that's typically not the case. I guess I should have asked that question ahead of time- but how would I have even thought to ask it.

 If we ever adopt again, which is unlikely give the fees associated with adoption we are either going to just use a lawyer or at least use an agency that isn't as mamby-pamby and irksome as this one. 

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Re: Agency frustration

  • That is nuts. Our agency has a social worker assigned to the emom who is with her every step of the way, including the birth. And they certainly didn't charge us for that.

    I don't know which agency you are using, but not all agencies nickel and dime you like that. 

    And I agree, I would want someone there with her. Wow.

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    I share in your agency frustration. Adoption is so much more expensive than I would have ever imagined it to be, especially for something that is never a "for sure thing". Paying the amount we have paid and knowing that at the end we may not come home with a baby is unbelievably stressful. I hope everything turns out well for you :)
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  • imagelafayettegirl:

    That is nuts. Our agency has a social worker assigned to the emom who is with her every step of the way, including the birth. And they certainly didn't charge us for that.

    I don't know which agency you are using, but not all agencies nickel and dime you like that. 

    And I agree, I would want someone there with her. Wow.

     

    This is our experience. Our agency works as a dual clinician agency. There is a clinician with us and one with the BM.

    That sucks about the extra charge. I can't believe that they wouldn't automatically have someone there to support the BM.  That seems like a no brainer.  Good luck.

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  • imagemaryoosa:
    So, just had a little chat with our family advocate. And apparently, if one of their emom coordinators attends the birth, to be there to support the emom, it will cost anothernbsp; 7001000.00.nbsp; Now I absolutely WANT them to be there to support the emom, I just would have appreciated that fee chunk to have been included in our initial contract with them. And of course, from everything they said at any of their courses/sessions etc it always sounded like someone from the agency was at the birth. It turns out that's typically not the case. I guess I should have asked that question ahead of time but how would I have even thought to ask it. nbsp;If we ever adopt again, which is unlikely give the fees associated with adoption we are either going to just use a lawyer or at least use an agency that isn't as mambypamby and irksome as this one.nbsp;


    That is highly irksome!!! I am really surprised to hear them say it's not typical to have someone there at the birth. It's standard at our agency. Grrr.
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  • Grrr, what a pain! I would totally think it would be standard, or at least, made very clear up front if its not standard. For what it's worth, lawyers aren't always as straight-forward as one would expect, especially if they don't operate on a flat fee approach.  :(
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