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BabyNewbury2012
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14 Months-Daycare Discipline Question & Concern
BabyNewbury2012
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In my daughters classroom there are ages 13-18 months, 13 kids in total with 3 teachers. I know this probably can be overwhelming at times for them all and obviously all kids act up. But Im wondering how your daycare handles discipline at this age?
I got there yesterday, the music was pretty loud so no one could hear me when I walked in the room. My daughter was on the floor in front of a bookshelf playing. A few other kids were playing on the other side of the shelf. Anyway as I walked in I seen a kid start to cry, and the teacher grabbed a little girl telling her no and the little girl turned her head and the teacher grabbed her by the arm (between elbow and shoulder) and lifted her up off the floor. This bothered me, it looked a little harsh to me, I was kind of in shock and didn't say anything. But I couldn't let it go so I spoke to the director about it on the way out and she was upset and said she would talk tot the teacher about it without telling her I said anything she would say she say it on the camera. Maybe I didn't see the whole picture but I know if she grabbed my child like that I would be pissed! I want my child to be disciplined but not like that! The director did say they do not use physical discipline, they say no and use redirection. Maybe the teacher was trying to get the child away from the other child but she could of did that another way.
Can I get some thoughts on this. I have hardly slept a wink wondering what happened after I left, I am pretty sure I did the right thing. And I really hope the director didn't say we said anything as I don't want my daughter to be treated differently.
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Re: 14 Months-Daycare Discipline Question & Concern
Who knows what actually happened. You did the right thing by saying something to the director - let them handle it.
lifted her maybe 6 inches more to move her and get her to look at her, she squat down to her level right after she laid her back down, but at this time she saw me.
Wait, again, to clarify, she lifted her.in the air.by ONE ARM?!?!?! I would go on a holy terror if I witnessed someone doing this to my child, so you definitely did the right thing. I would follow up with the director as well?
You don't touch a child out of your own anger, and a move like that where you would jerk a child off of the ground by one arm would seem to be out of anger and a care provider should know better. Completely unacceptable.
exactly this type of grabbing can cause what's actually called nursemaid elbow, which is really a terrible name because it's an injury that can be caused by even slight pulling, though, on a child's arms or wrists if they have extra delicate joints. But it certainly can be caused by lifting a child off the ground in the way you describe. You'd hope the workers were trained not to grab a child in that way seeing as how the injury is super common in young children b/c they are being grabbed up all the time for all sorts of reasons.
It sounds like that day care worker needs to get a little more controlled and have an action plan in mind as to how to separate two kids if need be. You absolutely did the right thing.
Thank you all so much! I just needed to hear it was the right thing. I am going to take some of your advice too and check in with the director this evening to make sure she was spoken too as my husband did drop off this morning.
I will tell you I told the director that if that was my child she was doing that too I would of kicked her a**!
I just don't understand how people can be so mean to such small babies!
I used to work at a daycare and grabbing a child or otherwise lifting them from their arm is totally unacceptable. If there was ever a situation where we needed to get a child away from another child for safety reasons (for example, one child was about to hit or bite another child) we would pick the child up like you would normally pick a child up and remove them. But we would never grab or pull their arms. Well, we weren't supposed to. There was one teacher that used to grab kids by the arm all the time to put them in time out and I always thought to myself "she's going to get fired one of these days."
Also, as for the bolded, being in a room with a bunch of toddlers can be very trying on your patience. I'm not saying that what this daycare worker did was right. She was completely out of line. But I remember when I worked in daycare and sometimes when the kids were being particularly rowdy it would take every ounce inside of me to not grab them. But I never did. You need A TON of patience to work in daycare. Hopefully the director will keep a close eye on this teacher. If she does it again, maybe daycare isn't the right job for her.