Deployed daddy

Martinez37

Hey everyone just wanted to post something and maybe get some people to talk to or what not. I am currently 11 weeks today and my husband deployed on June 8th. He will be gone for 9 months so he won't be able to meet baby until about 2 months. I have been so emotional and just lost because we are eachothers bestfriend and it has been truely rough on each of us. I Moved home to my parents for help until he comes home and it is stressful. My Little brother and older sister fight a lot so me and my pup have been walking a lot and I am going to enroll in water classes. Just needed to vent some stuff and see if anyone else is in my situation. :

katags

I am not in your situation and have never been through this, but my DH is in the military. I know several spouses who had husbands deployed during the pregnancy and or birth. It is not fun. It's hard to have your husband miss the milestones. But it works out because there is no other option.

You just have to make sure to involve him in every way you can. Email or mail your H sonogram pictures. Fill him in on the little things, like any symptoms you have, when you feel the baby kick, etc.

I've heard of some spouses [but not all] who are able to arrange Skype in the birthing room when they are delivering. It's something he can start looking into. Otherwise, at very minimum, you need to find out who your family contact person is so they can get a message to your H when you go into labor.

As far as your living situation, I have no suggestions other than asking if it's possible for you to get an apartment or something nearby your family so you can maintain a little independence and have a stress free home while still being near for help?

Is this your first deployment? I've been through 3 so I know how hard the leaving part is. It'll get easier once you settle into a routine. I'll be wishing you the best! Stick with it. It's a hard lifestyle but so worth it when that homecoming arrives.

OSUWifey09

My husband was deployed during my entire last pregnancy and came home right before we experienced our loss. It was his first deployment, and it was tough. I did try to keep him involved as much as possible, though. We were able to FaceTime during most of his deployment, so I was able to show him sonogram pictures and show him my growing bump. I also sent pictures to him while he was gone and kept him up-to-date on all of my appointments. After he got home, he told me he appreciated me keeping him informed, because he hated being gone - but he felt better when I'd update him. I do agree to keep him as involved as you can; hopefully, that will make this deployment easier on the both of you.

I don't really have any advice on the living situation - maybe talking things out with your family will help? I can only imagine how stressful that must be to live at home with fighting siblings and to also not have your husband there. It will be tough, but hang in there. I hope this deployment goes by fast for the both of you.