So tired of being benched

happygirl1013

My husband had varicocele and hydrococele surgery in feb due to zero sperm, the 3 month follow up showed no sperm as well.  So we are benched until the next three month follow up in August.  So sick of waiting, taking a much needed vacation this week to get our minds off of it.  Hoping for positive results in August.  

I feel like everyone I know is pregnant and it's really been bothering me lately.  I'm usually much more okay with it.  Sorry to rant, tough if week. 

Any good tips for those who are benched due to poor/no sperm? 

ttuprincess

I don't have any advice just wanted to say I'm sorry you are frustrated. Sending big ((hugs)) your way. FX the tests in August will come back with improved results. Enjoy that vacation. 

Cindal

I'm sorry I don't have any good advice to share. We've been 'benched' since late March so to speak when we found out how bad his SA was. It's rough waiting and knowing that we have pretty much no chance on our own right now, but I keep thinking that maybe things are improving without us knowing and that when we do go back we'll get some good news and his numbers will have greatly improved. Right now I just try to stay busy and not think about it, which is of course easier said than done. I'm so ready for July to hurry up and get here, so we find out some answers.

rox825

I'm sorry for your disappointing news, that sucks. Breaks are tough, I hope that you find a way to enjoy the time though.

ErinSays

I'm coming off 4 months on the bench and the thing that helped me the most was not visiting thebump or any other ttc-related site. I needed to keep my mind off of what I couldn't do and replace that time with something fun.

katib77

Being benched is hard and heart breaking.  We were only benched once the day of IUI because of low sperm, so I have no azoo miracle response for you.  But I do know the waiting game plenty from our looong breaks.  Personally, I've made lists.  I'm a list girl.  What needs to be fixed up or cleaned in your house?  What books would you like to read?  What personal projects would you like to accomplish (new playlists on iTunes, scrapbook etc)?  What should you pack for your vacation?  

I find that making a list, and then working my way through a list is satisfying and keeps my head away from all IF all the time...but that's me. 

BabyDustWish

My husband also has varicocele although our urologist felt it was too serious of a surgery for him to go through because we had some sperm present. So I can imagine what your poor husband has gone through and really have sympathy for him! They initially treated my husband with HCG but we saw little improvement with it. In January the urologist started him on 25mg of Clomid a day and we have seen improvements with that. His post wash count increased from less than 1 million to 15 million and his mobility increased from 13% to 65%, it maybe something to talk to his urologist about.

The waiting part of fertility is the worst, but if I could go back I may have waited a while longer for SA improvement prior to starting some of our IUI?s cycles, there is nothing worse than going through the whole cycle and having the SA return incredibly low.

Hang in there friend and fingers crossed that his numbers show improvement soon.

RunCC37

I wish I had some advice to offer you, but all I have are these ::hugs:: I have you in my T and P that you're off the bench ASAP. I hope you don't have to play the game for too long before you have success!

EIK2013

I'm so sorry that you have to be benched, its never easy.  I have never been benched due to low sperm, but for other reasons and we are currently going on about a 2 month break, so I feel for you!  To get through the break, I tend to take on a BIG project to take my mind off of things.  Whether its a new craft project I want to start, or taking on more responsibilities at work.  We are currently in the process of preparing to build a new house in the winter so that has occupied my time as well.  Just try to stay busy and the breaks, I feel, always go quicker than I thought they would.  Hang in there!  ((hugs))