newlywed paranoia?

Laura&Austin2013

Ok, so this may be just a dumb newbie question, but I got married a couple weeks ago and am a litte worried that we already messed up our attempt at natural family planning. I thought for sure that AF would visit during the honeymoon, as I am on a quite regular 31day cycle and had been trying to diligently track it during the months leading up the wedding (the wedding night was the first time for both of us.) I was 5 days late the month before the wedding, which I just amounted to stress. Anyways, we planned on just using the ovulation tracking/counting method until we were ready to start our family (which honestly, if we weren't poor newlyweds in school, would totally be right now!), so we haven't used any sort of contraceptives since I was so certain that AF was imminent and ovulation wasn't even close. But AF never came and it's now 12 days late. Could that just be due to the stress of the wedding and the hormonal shifts of the wedding night/honeymoon? Or is there any possibility of pregnancy already? If I'm just super late for AF, how should I best track ovulation now? I'm confused...any help would be appreciated!

bumpuser9058414

Start by taking a pregnancy test then read this...

 https://tbttgp.wordpress.com/

If you are trying to avoid you need to learn how your body works so as to avoid sex in your fertile window. Everyone is regular until they're not and if you don't know when you're ovulating, then you don't know when to avoid in order to prevent a pregnancy.  Stress can delay ovulation which can delay your period.

salt78

If you had unprotected sex you could possibly be pregnant. The only way you will know for sure is if you take a test.

Your period could just be late though. So if I were you, I'd head to the Dollar Store and grab a test, see if it's positive and if it's not I would sign yourself up for FertilityFriend to track your cycles.

Congrats on your wedding! That's very exciting.

DebateThis

If you're in THAT dire of financial straights, you really need to learn how to actually track your basal body temperature and use a barrier method during your fertile times or consider hormonal BC. "Ovulation counting" means exactly nothing and is about as accurate as throwing a dart at a calendar to determine when you're ovulating.

Take a pregnancy test, then visit Fertilityfriend.com and go through the tutorials. It would probably also be very helpful for you to pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

Laura&Austin2013

Taking a look at that site...thank you all!

pmarie33

Have you taken a pg test?

Laura&Austin2013

Not yet...from what I'd read I thought it was still too early for that. Again, maybe I'm just prematurely questioning it, but I just want to be smart about it and do the right things! 

JemmaWRX

Anytime you have unprotected sex, there is a chance of conception.  Take a test.  If you think you're late, and are concerned you are pregnant, just take the test.

If you are financially/emotionally unprepared for a baby, I suggest alternate forms of birth control OR correctly tracking your cycles via NFP.  That means in addition to ovulation test, counting the dates, etc. you should chart your basal body temperature.  Ovulation tests don't guarantee ovulation will happen.  Your BBT on the other hand, will confirm when ovulation occurred.

Check out Fertility Friend too.

 

 

 

 

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My husband and I lived in separate states while we were dating/engaged (he got a job elsewhere early in our relationship). I moved to where he was when we got married, and chose not to use hormonal birth control because it made me sick. I noticed after we moved in together, my cycles changed. My doctor suggested it's just a "cycle of cycles" and that it would change back. It didn't. I began to suspect suddenly living with a man when I'd had a one bedroom apartment to myself might be affecting me just like women who live together affect one another. I asked a few close friends who had the same situation, and yep, they noticed a change, too. You might be experiencing something similar.