sleep training

ta78

This is more of a vent.. I do not want to talk about actual sleep training.

I am not against CIO at all, we've gone throught that enough on here. It does make me sad that every other post on my BMB right now is about starting to sleep train though. DD just turned 5 months a few days ago, it still seems so early. I also think part of it is that I know we aren't having any more and don't want my baby to grow up any faster than she already is. I mean... she is still sleeping in the rnp in our room. DS was in his crib by 3 months.

ta78

Well, I meant to post this to another board. But it does make me sad how fast our babies are growing.

ReeceFamily

It makes me really sad, too. Most of our babies are not even 6 months old.  I thought this article was really to the point:

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201301/baby-sleep-training-mistakes-experts-and-parents-make 

Christee25

I'm sure you posted this in response to mine and another persons post from earlier today. My LO has been having meltdowns for 7 weeks now every single time we try to put him to sleep. I mean 40 plus minute meltdowns. Its taxing and exhausting! So while I'm not trying to start an argument about sleep training, I think you're setting yourself up to be flamed by posting such a blanket statement on such a hot topic. There are many mommies including myself that need help w/ getting our LO's to sleep, and while it may not be right for you its also no

eta not sure where the rest of my post went but anyway, not looking to argue. maybe it just hit a nerve since im starting tonight. lol

ReeceFamily

Sorry to have come off as judgy, I really don't blame families who are totally sleep deprived and are seeking solutions.  But, I think our culture promotes pushing babies to STTN too early, in general...even if they are only waking once per night, which is totally normal for breatfed babies.  That's the part that makes me sad.

sbevmc09

Yeah, I'll be honest, it's bumming me out too.  I'm not a fan of sleep training in general and the idea that some people have that it's something you HAVE to do really irks me.  I fully admit that there are going to be babies who need a little more support with sleep and may need some "sleep training", but it's my opinion that the vast majority of babies will sleep just fine if left to their own devices.  I think people jump to sleep training far too soon without trying other solutions or allowing nature to take its course.  But what really gets to me is this concept of having to teach a baby to sleep.  It's just not true in most cases.  Maybe it's true if you want them to sleep on your schedule.  That would be something that has to be taught.

I think the other thing is it seems that a lot of people don't realize what baby sleep should look like.  They're not following the baby's natural rhythms and that's causing a frustrating situation.  They think that baby should be STTN by a certain age, etc.  I just think that some people need to give some other things a try before jumping to sleep training, is all.  

ta78

Christee25:

I'm sure you posted this in response to mine and another persons post from earlier today. My LO has been having meltdowns for 7 weeks now every single time we try to put him to sleep. I mean 40 plus minute meltdowns. Its taxing and exhausting! So while I'm not trying to start an argument about sleep training, I think you're setting yourself up to be flamed by posting such a blanket statement on such a hot topic. There are many mommies including myself that need help w/ getting our LO's to sleep, and while it may not be right for you its also no eta not sure where the rest of my post went but anyway, not looking to argue. maybe it just hit a nerve since im starting tonight. lol

It wasn't really from todays posts.. it's been talked about a lot in the past month.

Like I said, I'm not against sleep training or CIO. I just think there are people who may be using it before trying other options, or want their babies to sttn even if they're not ready. I'm sure you have tried everything you can and I hope that it does work for you. I don't think your situation is the same as everyone who is starting sleep training.

For what it's worth, if I don't get DD down before she is too tired she is nearly impossible to get to sleep. Like I said though, you've probably done all you can.

Mostly I posted this because I can't believe how fast all of our babies are growing. While I do think it is early for some to be sleep training, it is also just surprising that we are getting to that age.

Starfish02807

I an asleep training for two reasons, the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child recommends 56 months as the ideal time. The second is I didn't do this with my first two children who STILL struggle at bedtime and they are eight and eleven!
I agree time is flying, our babies are developing so quickly!

Christee25

I would never sleep train to get my LO to sttn. In fact, I don't really mind getting up, but its the 40 minute meltdown at 3am that is a killer. My DS just had about a 2 hour meltdown but seemed like something was wrong. I was ready to take him to the ER and said we cant sleep train tonight like we had planned. We seriously tried everything so my DH put LO in bouncy seat to put his shoes on and was going to take him for a drive. But the tv was on, which it never is when DS is awake but he instantly stopped crying. So we turned off tv and he started crying again. I didnt know if I should laugh or cry. Couldn't believe it. My DH said I guess he doesnt need to go to the ER. lol. But that is why we will be sleep training! Meltdowns, meltdowns, meltdowns!

Fluxy3535

Reading articles like these really upset me, just because if a parent is doing this..... THEN YOU'RE WRONG AND YOUR CHILD WILL SUFFER. Always just seems so one sided. I have never sleep trained my daughter, we always go by her schedule after a while it was like something clicked that 11pm is sleep time.... since about 2 months old she has been going to sleep around 11pm with only breastmilk, she STTN and awakens around 9am. I have no problem with parents wanting to sleep train but I do think right now it is entirely up to your child when he or she wants to sleep. JUST TAKES TIME AND KEEP POSITIVE: