Am I being too sensitive??

toniannV

The last few times I've come home from work and taken LO from my MIL (who was watching him) he has cried and reached to go back to her.

 

He is fine with me after a minute of course, but still it is really upsetting me.  

 

She only watches him 1 day every other week for us but we also live with her and FIL since the storm, so he sees her every day.  

 

Is it stupid that this is upsetting me?? Is it a phase or something?  DS is my first and this was something that I was afraid of happening when I went back to work.  

 

mommymegan831

that would upset me too, but atleast you know he's happy being with her.  DD went to a sitter and would do that when she was around a year, but it didn't last long.  DS goes to daycare, he reaches for his teacher in the morning after she talks to him for a minute or so, but as soon as I come he wants mommy.  I think when it's when they're the only baby the get closer to the caregiver

aglenn

Some kids go through phases where they struggle with transitions from one activity to the next.  Try just being there for a few minutes before you reach for him, or let him reach for you first.  It is certainly not anything personal!  This too shall pass.

EMOmamma

I'm not saying it doesn't sting but it'll come and go.  Sometimes mommy is the favorite, sometimes it's daddy, and some days it's grandma (or DC teacher).  Just take solace that he is being well cared for and loves his grandma.  It's a good developmental thing for them to recognize and bond with others, he will always know and love his mommy but it sounds like grandma is his new friend.  

emberlee3

1. Of course you're upset about it.  2. It's a phase.  3. Try letting her come to you, maybe join whatever activity she is engaged in, rather than pulling her out of something.

WhitWed

I think anytime your LO prefers someone else over you it would sting. It is definitely a phase. My DD goes through phases of having favorites people. Now that she talks she'll even say, "I want mommy" or "No mommy".  So after the sting, just realize that he is enjoying your MIL's company and that would actually give me some relief. I would rather have them love where they are at during the day than have the guilt of thinking they were unhappy. 

iverske9

I can understand emotionally why you feel that way but intelectually you have to realize it is nothing. Your baby acts that way because all day he gets used to your MIL. Your child will never not know who you are but over the years he will want you more, the dad more and every once in a while the caretaker. Don't worry about it, you should be happy your baby loves his/her caretaker as opposed to being miserable when you are at work.

*sparky*

aglenn:

Some kids go through phases where they struggle with transitions from one activity to the next.  Try just being there for a few minutes before you reach for him, or let him reach for you first.  It is certainly not anything personal!  This too shall pass.

I agree w/this.  I know it is hard, but look at it this way - he is obviously in good hands when you cannot be there.