Bring it b*tch

+just+j+

XH called to tell me that his mother has continued to text him and threaten him.  He has her calls blocked so it's all thru texts.  I told him to save every single one and do not respond. He says he's doing just that.

The latest however is she contacted XSS and asked if he's seen the divorce papers, and does he know my maiden name.  Seriously?  You can't even pull your head out long enough to know what my maiden name is after 8 years?  Apparently she is going to try and get to DD thru me.  I am not sure how she intends to do that - if she thinks she'll get my number or address, or take me to court....who knows.

If she gets a lawyer and wants to fight for visitation...good luck. I welcome the day in court. Crazy b*tch. No judge in his/her right mind will give her visitation after we pull all the dirt out on her.  Aside from the fact that she has taken in her drug head and deadbeat, jailbird 40 something sons,  XH has more dirt on her than she will ever be able to justify visitation.

I am highly annoyed by this news, but I'm not worried.  Just more stupid drama that will probably amount to nothing.

Karma1969

Why are you even listening to what your X is spewing at you about his Mom? Tell him you don't want to hear it. Unless something is served to you disregard his family drama. Many states don't even recognize grandparent rights in the perfect situation. Nothing to worry about. Don't talk to him about his crazy family!!

karatechrissy

This kind of thing has to make you giggle though, right? The fact that she thinks she can either get to DD through you or take YOU to court... It's pretty laughable.

+just+j+

First of all - I was venting. 

Yes, I do find it quit laughable.  I also appreciate XH giving me a heads up.  If I found out his mother was considering legal action of any kind, and he knew - that would piss me off and go nowhere toward us having an amicable relationship.  Which we are managing right now.  Short lived, yes, but we are getting along and I GREATLY appreciate what he's doing for DD's sake. 

Regardless of what the state laws are - and yes I am well aware that they are against her on so many levels - she can still submit for a hearing. That means, my time and my spending money on a lawyer. It's kinda nice to know this in advance.

Any random letters and other communication won't be addressed and returned back to her.  I don't plan on engaging her, but at least I know what's headed my way.  

 

 

 

Pamelacake

I agree that a head's up is good. I'm sorry you are going through this but it sounds really ridiculous of her. I don't know your story with X's mom but she sounds like a nut to me.

My mom was mad at me and tried to go for grandparent's rights aver my son, she quickly realized she was wasting her time b/c grandparent's rights aren't as big of a thing as they used to be. So she went the low road and called the cops to my house on false accusations as well as CPS saying the roof was caving in and all kinds of crazy stuff... The cps agent acted very confused when she came out and I of course didn't know why she was here in the first place. lol.

ETA: GL even though I doubt that you will need it!

 

+just+j+

XH is concerned she may try something like that too Pamela. We'll see.  She is just trying to control XH and he isn't giving. This is a first for him. I have not seen him this resolved in regards to his mother. 

She is a real piece of work. She's a drug addict.  She left him and his 3 brothers at a children's home and ran off to California with her boyfriend. When XH and I were down there at the home's reunion 2 years ago, she told me that all that place was "Temporary Babysitting". 

XH's childhood was so f'd up and most of his issues go back to his mother's abandonment.  He's forgiven her and given her so many chances, but now I think he's done. 

I'm glad.  DD doesn't need family like this.

As far as Iowa's laws, it's really kind of sad for grandparent's who do deserve to see their grandkids, but in this case, it's in our favor.  There are people who were given visitation rites by a judge and then had it removed by the Supreme Court. I'm not worried about her getting visitation. It's just dealing with the garbage that she will try throwing my way.

Even if it's having the post office stamp "Return to Sender" on an envelope or throwing an un-opened letter in a trash can...I want this chapter closed. 

Pamelacake

Your XH and I have a lot in common when it comes to mom abandoning! I have given my mom many chances as well, over the past 12 years.

 

I know in Indiana, once cps has been called so many times from one person and the accusations have been false they will prosecute the caller, even though it's supposed to be anonymous... they can find out who it was. I have been dealing with this with my family for years.

It has all been so ridiculous. My house was surrounded by the swat team one evening. With DD 7yo at the time. I was furious. They came in with bulletproof vests ready to draw their guns! DD and I were at home, it was a Friday evening and I had dinner in the oven. They were told that I was making, using and selling meth, heroine all kinds of drugs all in front of my son. I was single at the time so it was just he and I. I was so mad and DD was so scared and confused!

They tore apart my house, my car.. they even ripped the seats in it looking for drugs. They left disappointed b/c the only thing they found was a paintball gun.

 I hope you don't have to go through all of that!! Just wanted to share one of my experiences with it.. They offered for me to do a drug mouth swab test and of course I did. Some people will just do anything they think they can get away with. I'm almost to the point where I can file a restraining order. They have left nothing but a paper trail.   

 

I also agree it is sad for grandparents who deserve to see the grandchildren. But if making false allegations against someone is their way to do it, then maybe they don't.

I hope it doesn't last too long or get to bad for you. You will be in my thoughts!