This has been on my mind?

Tiffblue92

ok so this has been on my mind although i do not have a child yet. My SO and I have talked about how we want our kid to have freedom to choose their own religion. But my mother is a major religious women (christian) and says her grand child is going to be brought up knowing about god. I mean don't get me wrong i have nothing against christianity but I am not of that Faith anymore I haven't been for awhile.

My SO and I are Pagans(Wiccans) and she hates that I steered clear from her ways but it was my choice i want my kid to know about all religions and be able to choose their own. What i am concerned about is her and my father forcing it down my kids throat like I know she will do. Is their any advice you can give me to help me protect my kids rights to choose their own beliefs.

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amtobey:

Your kid. Not hers. Grow a pair and tell her to back the fluck off.

 

But from your other posts, it doesn't sound like you are actually ready for a kid. Please...mature first before having a kid.

Yep.

MaineMama

I hate the argument of "I want my kid to know everything about everything and then choose" If we apply this to road safety, vegetables, and medicine we'd have fat, infectious, dead kids. Be honest with your mother and yourself, you want to raise your kid Pagan. Man up and make a choice, and be honest about your choices or people will automatically assume you dont know what you want and you'll hear their opinions constantly.

greengirl0909

When I hear someone say they want their child to choose their faith, I assume they aren't very secure in their faith. I believe in my faith, I believe it's the best faith, the true faith, and that it's impact is life altering. I will raise my children to follow my faith because of my beliefs. It will not be acceptable to me that my children choose a different faith, because I believe other faiths to be inferior. I'll admit I don't know much about your faith, but if you believe in it and practice it, why wouldn't you want your children to do the same?

Tiffblue92

i found my faith almost 2 years ago i was into when i was a child and went back to it cause i know its my true calling. the reason im thinking about letting them choose is cause i am the only one of the non christian faith that is in my family and my so got to choose what he believed in and he helps to streagthen my faith teaches me more and so on since he has been in the practice for over 16 years. my family are very judgemental of people of other religions although they claim they are not. sry for no commons or anything on my tiny tablet

MaineMama

greengirl0909:

When I hear someone say they want their child to choose their faith, I assume they aren't very secure in their faith. I believe in my faith, I believe it's the best faith, the true faith, and that it's impact is life altering. I will raise my children to follow my faith because of my beliefs. It will not be acceptable to me that my children choose a different faith, because I believe other faiths to be inferior. I'll admit I don't know much about your faith, but if you believe in it and practice it, why wouldn't you want your children to do the same?

moon427

greengirl0909:

When I hear someone say they want their child to choose their faith, I assume they aren't very secure in their faith. I believe in my faith, I believe it's the best faith, the true faith, and that it's impact is life altering. I will raise my children to follow my faith because of my beliefs. It will not be acceptable to me that my children choose a different faith, because I believe other faiths to be inferior. I'll admit I don't know much about your faith, but if you believe in it and practice it, why wouldn't you want your children to do the same?

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And would you stop deleting threads! It's annoying and rude.  

kcisthebombdotcom

greengirl0909:

When I hear someone say they want their child to choose their faith, I assume they aren't very secure in their faith. I believe in my faith, I believe it's the best faith, the true faith, and that it's impact is life altering. I will raise my children to follow my faith because of my beliefs. It will not be acceptable to me that my children choose a different faith, because I believe other faiths to be inferior. I'll admit I don't know much about your faith, but if you believe in it and practice it, why wouldn't you want your children to do the same?

from my experience I didn't like growing up this way at all. My family pushed Christianity on me. My first year of college I took a sociology of religion course, learned about the large number of belief systems, and ditched Christianity permanently. 

i want my children to be educated, well rounded individuals. To me that's educating them on other belief systems besides our own. Ime the kids who were force fed one religion ended up leaving that religion in adulthood while kids whose parents took a more worldly approach followed in their parents footsteps. 

greengirl0909

KC_13:

greengirl0909:

When I hear someone say they want their child to choose their faith, I assume they aren't very secure in their faith. I believe in my faith, I believe it's the best faith, the true faith, and that it's impact is life altering. I will raise my children to follow my faith because of my beliefs. It will not be acceptable to me that my children choose a different faith, because I believe other faiths to be inferior. I'll admit I don't know much about your faith, but if you believe in it and practice it, why wouldn't you want your children to do the same?

from my experience I didn't like growing up this way at all. My family pushed Christianity on me. My first year of college I took a sociology of religion course, learned about the large number of belief systems, and ditched Christianity permanently. 

i want my children to be educated, well rounded individuals. To me that's educating them on other belief systems besides our own. Ime the kids who were force fed one religion ended up leaving that religion in adulthood while kids whose parents took a more worldly approach followed in their parents footsteps. 

And I would argue that's the difference between FAITH and EDUCATION. I know about other religions, but my faith tells me my beliefs. My child can be educated and worldly in a knowledge sense but still embrace their faith as their life determining beliefs.

As a Christian, I believe the only way to eternal life is believing in Jesus Christ. Why would I tell my kids- go ahead, believe what you want? When in essence, that's sentencing them to life in Hell based upon my beliefs? I wouldn't.  And if they end up choosing a different faith, I will pray for them to return.  These are my beliefs. I'm not trying to convince you to think differently, just saying that's where my faith falls. If other faiths have different beliefs, then that would influence their thinking.

I've had the opposite experience, a great number of people that I know who grew up in home with strong faith still adhere to their beliefs. Those without a solid faith have had a rough time.

Kristinmo

Did you DD your other post AGAIN???  AFTER everyone told you not to?

Tiffblue92

I just put up a new post it wont be deleted and it says why i did

Pepper6

In regards to which/how you will expose your children to religion, you need to do whatever YOU feel is best.  If you want them to learn about different faiths and choose their own, great.  If you want to raise them in the religion you believe in, great.  Religion is one of the personal things that really varies person to person, and therefore is completely up to you.

As for how to get your parents to respect your wishes, you need to man up and tell them that you will raise your kids how you see fit and reinforce to your kids that while it's great education to hear their grandparents views, it's not the only religion out there.