Don't want to give notice to DC...

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My husband and I are planning to move 3 hours away sometime in the next six months (list house, sell it, find another house are in that timeframe).  I don't know why, but I am extremely stressed about telling her in-home daycare provider. She just started there this summer, as this had been a long-term plan since before we knew that we were moving. I moved her to this one because it would be closer to her preschool for next year (again, before we planned on moving). The in-home provider is extremely sweet and unassuming. I love her to pieces, she is older, and we live in a very small community. My DD and one other girl are the only full-time kids right now, with other part-time kids here and there. I think I feel like I am just going to deliver a huge blow to her income.  I need to let her know before our house is listed, because they go on wagon rides by our house, so I don't want her to find out that way.

I guess this is just getting it out there since there isn't really any resolution to this situation other than biting the bullet.  She doesn't have a cell phone or internet - I thought about telling her I'd be a reference for her in the future, and spread the word about her daycare in my community.   Why am I so guilt-ridden about this?

jnealet

Don't feel guilty, its part of her business and she knows it.  She will survive without your portion of her income if need be but hopefully, she will be able to fill your spot when you leave.

Good luck in telling her!

Mrs+Me

:advice from a home provider:

I have had a few families move away and I am first excited for the family, sad to lose the child, and last I think about lost income.  There is a high demand for daycare in my area do you know what the demand is like where you live?   She will know your house is on the market but you won't really be giving notice until it sells and you have a date to move or will you leave in six months even if it hasn't sold?  

 

Just make sure you give her as much notice as you can.  Let her know she has provided excellent care and you will recommend her (and be a good reference).   

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Demand in my area is a bit lower over the infant age - she does not care for infants, otherwise she'd have kids coming out of her ears!  I live in a pretty small town.  I heard about her from word-of-mouth from people who have used her before, so I know she has people saying good things about her.  I guess what I'm giving her now isn't notice, but a "pre" notice.  I won't leave the area or give notice until our house is sold, so if it doesn't sell by this fall for some reason, we will likely take it off the market and list it again next spring.  Sigh.

BakerMommy

I'd begin and end with how much you love the care your child receives and let her know you're willing to be a reference and/or refer people to her [if you are, of course].

SunAndRain

I am right there with you!

I just broke the news to DD's DC that we are moving her to another school.  What sucks is that we LOVE the people and they LOVE DD.  But we want to try Montessori which is totally different from her current place.

I got completely choked up when I talked to the assistant director.  DD's teacher started tearing up when I talked to her.  The director was so incredibly supportive and made sure we knew we were welcome back any time.

I was so stressed and sick about it but really I just had to rip the bandaid off and so that is what I did.  Now we can move forward and I can focus on ways to maintain our relationship with these women as well as building new relationships with the staff at the new daycare.