NBFR Who wins this argument?

dmndsr4eva

So my small dog became ill last week.  I took him to the ER vet and now to the regular vet and most likely he got posioning from rat poison or may have cancer.  He is having an ultra sound tomorrow to determine if it is cancer. 

The vet said that rat posioning can gradually cause the organs to fail and can come on slowly.  However, it has been 1.5 months or longer since he could have been exposed when we moved. 

My FI is maintaining that there is no way it is rat poisioning.  When we lived in our old house there was a mouse problem and he got poision.  I told him not to and was very upset but he did it anyways.  Now come to find out that my dog may have been poisioned and I read on the internet that 10,000 children a year are exposed to this poison.  And that the brand he used was banned by the EPA earlier this year because it is so dangerous to humans, animals, and wildlife.

I am so angry about this and thank god it wasn't my son.  He still is maintaining that he has no problem using rat posion in the future despite my wishes and that there is no chance this is his fault. 

What would you do?

CurlieWhirlie

I really can't stand poison. Not only is it dangerous for any pets/kids in the house, it generally does more harm than good even when the rats/mice it's intended for do eat it. Mice or rats tend to eat it, crawl back into your walls where their nests are, and die there, causing a horrible stench. The only way to fix that is to tear out part of the wall to get at the mess. Not good.

I am really sorry you are dealing with a sick dog, that's hard. It's heartbreaking when a beloved pet is really ill. I totally understand your anger and your concern about the future, but I don't think blaming your FI is going to help you get the outcome you want. If you want your FI to agree with you and never use the stuff again, you are better off appealing to his logic. People tend to shut down and go into self-defense mode when you say "you did this wrong, don't you agree that my way would have been better?" 

The stinky dead rodents in the wall argument usually is a pretty foolproof one.

Good luck! I hope your dog is ok.  

Littlejen22

I will sound crazy here but have him talk to your pediatrician about the dangers of eat poison. If he continues to think that your child's safety is not as important as killing a mouse then call off the wedding because this man should not be helping you raise a kid.

xmaryrickx

Well, IMO you win. Poison should not be around small children or pets. The end. However, sounds like he won't listen, so in that case, I would say if he brings it home, throw it away.

I'm sorry your dog is sick : hope it's neither cancer or poisoning and he gets better soon.

karatechrissy

I'm only saying this because it is you posting.

I'm calling it now. This is 'the beginning of the end' of you and FI. You can blame him for killing your dog and there is your out. We all know you don't love him anyway and are still hung up on EX.

Sorry your dog is sick, though. Really I am. I am an animal lover. I can't even watch the Discovery Wild Life channel at home because I hate to see when they meet the end of their lives. I hope he is okay.

Doesn't matter who you blame or what it is. Your dog is ill. Deal with that. Don't start trying to point fingers. However, I wouldn't be putting any kind of 'poison' around since I have toddlers. I wouldn't have ever allowed it in the first place. This is where you need to set your boundaries or decide if it's a deal breaker. 

twister22

I'm sorry your dog is ill.

If your FI insists on continuing to get poison, despite the fact that it puts your DS in harms way, then you need to leave this man. If you don't, you're putting your FI above DS.

Of course, you never listen to anyone on this board, so why am I wasting my breath? 

CurlyQ284

Do you leave your dog outside and let him bark? A neighbor could have gotten pissed and threw poisoned meat over the fence. This happened to an acquaintance of mine.

Ilumine

True story.  

Our neighbor had mouse problems.  So he put rat poison INSIDE the garage and sticky traps OUTSIDE of the garage.

Mice would stream out (the poison would make them extremely thirsty and they would run to the drain pond and then die.) and either get stuck on the trap or make a run to the pond.

Within DAYS we had 2-3 Redtail Hawks circling the drain pond.  

On a Thursday afternoon, Julia came home to a hawk down in front of her garage.  It was still alive, but had the sticky mouse trap stuck to its wings and looked very ill.

She called Paul and the animal rescue group.  They both showed up about the same time.  Julia and I were waiting.  The rescue lady took one look at the bird and asked if Paul&Julia had used rat poisoning.  

Yeah...they killed a beautiful raptor with the rat poisoning.

 

dmndsr4eva

His argument is that he was concerned that we would get hantavirus and the only way to get rid of the mice was poison.  I explained to him that the the odds are higher that a dog or child would get poisoning vs. hantavirus.  Luckily we do not have a mice problem now so I guess I will just have to fight that battle if it ever comes up again.

My dog seems to be doing better after the medication.  He is on vitamin K, a diurectic, and a steriod.  He is eating, drinking, and moving around normally.  If it was poison the vitamin K would help if it is taken in time.  There is a possibility that a neighbor posioned him as he was staying at my sisters and they have close neighbors.  If that was the case he may have recieved treatment in time.

xmaryrickx

wendilea:

I work for Vets at the college.nbsp; More expensive testing will not save your dog.nbsp; Even if it's cancer, the dog is suffering and should be put down.nbsp; Does this suck?nbsp; Yes.nbsp; But many Vets will continue to do tests and expensive treatments even when there is no hope for the dog.It's possible your dog got into the rat poison, or drank some antifreeze, or who knows what.nbsp; The issue that your FI won't admit to any fault and will CONTINUE to use poison is an issue.Leave.nbsp; Now.nbsp; Put the needs and safety of your son first.And I agree with KK.

In reference to nothing will make the dog better, just put it out of its misery, I wholeheartedly disagree. I know plenty of people who have had cancer dogs live comfortable happy lives for years. I know at least one person whose dog ate rat poison and lived through it and is now healthy happy and normal. Expensive tests might give the answers, you can't make that call until they are done. I would sell a kidney for my dogs, no joke. I would do absolutely anything if it meant a chance at saving them, there is no limit at all to what I would do, and I think it's super insensitive to just sy your dog is dying, end it. Not everyone thinks of pets as just animals, some consider them family, and when your family is sick and hurting you fight for them.