AW: SO and EX

CurlieWhirlie

I've posted before about what a good relationship I have with my ex-husband. The only sticking point has been that he doesn't want to come to events when SO is going to be there, which is fine and understandable, but something I have encouraged him to get over because he doesn't have any family in the area, and I want him to feel invited and included for things like Thanksgiving and Christmas. 

So my cousins were visiting from Texas this weekend, and it so happened that we took them to a local brewery for a tour ? something the ex *loves*. And for some reason, the stars aligned and there were enough people who wanted him to come, that he decided to join, even though SO was there. And it was great! They shared beers, and it turned out to be no big deal at all, and when we got home (I drove everyone) and DS wanted to go into his dad's house and have a snack, he invited us all in to his place and offered SO a beer and they watched basketball for a half hour.

I'm not expecting them to be buddies or anything, nor would I want them to be. I'm just AWing because I feel like this was a really big hump for the ex to get over, and it will open the door to the possibility of them both being at big family events and no one having to miss out or feel left out. I'm really proud of him for being so incredibly mature.

ambrvan

Wow! That is a huge deal for most if not every BF! How amazingly wonderful! Consider your family truly blessed. I am so hapoy for your DS.

MrsHetzel

That is a wonderful step in the right direction!! I personally am so jealous, I wish every kid with separated parents could have them interact civilly if not down right friendly! Good for you guys

dmndsr4eva

I think that is great.  However, I was in his situation before and I was incredibly uncomfortable with the closeness of Ex and his exwife's relationship.  He would frequently hang out with her and her husband at their home and it was a bit much for me.  Of course looking back maybe I should have been more accepting of the situation.  But I do laugh at some of the things we did.  We ended up showing up to her 35th birthday and the looks on all of their friends and families faces was interesting.  I didn't even know it was her birthday.  His kids said it was a party for their step brother and that is what I was told.  I guess this was more of a SO problem as he may have known it was her birthday and failed to mention it to me.

Alohalove

It sounds like such a good situation.  Everyone is in a good place.  You're so lucky!! Congrats!