Flameful Friday Confessions

michaelaskedlauren

Make 'em good, and make 'em fun

michaelaskedlauren

DH takes this TTC thing very seriously. We have DTD every.single.night for the past week and a half and I am exhausted.

I cannot wait for Saturday night when I will be at my parents house and far away from DH's penis.

cecilyandgautam

There's an anon parenting forum for my metro area and they have a weekly judgement thread, kinda like ours but much more harshly worded since everyone's anonymous. The first two weeks, I stayed away because I didn't want to get sucked in, but this week I totally plunged and I kind of love the drama, even though I think it's wrong to fuel the flames. Apparently people have really strong opinions about pacifiers, strollers, and soda. 

Netty_3

I think I'm inadvertantly being passive aggressive to DH.  He keeps harping on me to pack for our trip...so I am silently protesting and not doing it.  I don't even know why.

CrawltheWarriorKing

My husband has no idea the amount of debt we're really in or that I'm in a credit counseling program.

I handle all the finances, he has no interest in it and doesn't even have a log in for our checking account.  He only has 1 credit card that has a $0 balance (I paid it off).  Everything debt related is in my name.  We did a lot of work on the house when we moved in but he doesn't know how much it really costs adding that to how irresponsible I was with money, got me/us where I am.   

But I am working really really hard to pay it off - that's why I enrolled in the program.

cecilyandgautam

uconnhuskie007:

cecilyandgautam:

There's an anon parenting forum for my metro area and they have a weekly judgement thread, kinda like ours but much more harshly worder since everyone's anonymous. The first two weeks, I stayed away because I didn't want to get sucked in, but this week I totally plunged and I kind of love the drama, even though I think it's wrong to fuel the flames. Apparently people have really strong opinions about pacifiers, strollers, and soda. 

  [paci's and soda, sure - but strollers?  do tell.

There were 2 issues. 1) Apparently some people out there believe that if you push an older child around in a stroller, you're teaching them to be lazy. 2) We live in a high COLA area so there's the status symbol of having certain brands of strollers and some of the city dwellers were justifying their $1000+ stroller purchase by saying they don't own cars, so they need something plush and smooth to push baby around in. There's some new model that looks like a space capsule. I've seen it around, thought it looked funky, but never would have guessed it retails for $1k!!

cecilyandgautam

I'm not sure whether I agree with the first point. If the 5 year old gets pushed everywhere, then of course that's going to limit his/her physical development, but I do know at what point I'd say a kid is too old for a stroller. My 1.5 year old can only walk so far and she's already pretty heavy. So when we're heading somewhere she's likely to get tired along the way, like an airport check in, then we start out walking and then switch to the stroller or carrier when she can't walk anymore. It also really helps with nap time on the go, so again, I'm not sure when they'd be old enough to not need that ever. Maybe when they don't take naps anymore?

mexicolombiana

michaelaskedlauren:

DH takes this TTC thing very seriously. We have DTD every.single.night for the past week and a half and I am exhausted.

I cannot wait for Saturday night when I will be at my parents house and far away from DH's penis.

Ha ha.  Except the opposite was true when we were TTC w/DD#1.  I MADE him have s e x with me every night while ovulation whether he liked it or not.  He felt like he was being used for his p e n i s.  And he was.  

jf198400

PrivacyWanted:

I am more than 4months post partum and am wearing a maternity shirt. My belly still looks 5 or 6 months pregnant. This time my body is not bouncing back. Maybe it's because I'm nearly 3 years older. Or just a second baby thing ? But I'm tired of working out with nothing to show for it. And so ashamed I still need the extra coverage maternity tees provide

Don't be ashamed!  It's a 2nd baby thing, it just takes a bit longer to recover.  After 2u2 I eventually made it back into all my old clothes.

cecilyandgautam

Ok, the anon judgement post now just had an entry about epidurals being just a comfort measure that's not in the best interest of the mother or the baby. OMG, I wish I had popcorn. 

CrawltheWarriorKing

JellyBellyStar:

CrawltheWarriorKing:

My husband has no idea the amount of debt we're really in or that I'm in a credit counseling program.

I handle all the finances, he has no interest in it and doesn't even have a log in for our checking account.  He only has 1 credit card that has a $0 balance (I paid it off).  Everything debt related is in my name.  We did a lot of work on the house when we moved in but he doesn't know how much it really costs adding that to how irresponsible I was with money, got me/us where I am.   

But I am working really really hard to pay it off - that's why I enrolled in the program.

This is a huge secret/burden that you are carrying.  Are you both responsible or just you?   

Tricky question. I handled all the contruction/redecorating of the house he really is not interested in that.  I'd show him stuff but that's about it.  And he's the type that walks away from the register when it's time to pay.  That's where a giant chunk of the debt came from so technically both of us but I'm the one that chose what to buy I guess.  Other than the other debt is I would get carried away for some showers that I hosted so that added to it.

Once I enrolled in the program all cards were cut off so we live only on our paycheck and I'm starting to get better at managing the day to day.

Iblamethebeer

CrawltheWarriorKing:

JellyBellyStar:

CrawltheWarriorKing:

My husband has no idea the amount of debt we're really in or that I'm in a credit counseling program.

I handle all the finances, he has no interest in it and doesn't even have a log in for our checking account.  He only has 1 credit card that has a $0 balance (I paid it off).  Everything debt related is in my name.  We did a lot of work on the house when we moved in but he doesn't know how much it really costs adding that to how irresponsible I was with money, got me/us where I am.   

But I am working really really hard to pay it off - that's why I enrolled in the program.

This is a huge secret/burden that you are carrying.  Are you both responsible or just you?   

Tricky question. I handled all the contruction/redecorating of the house he really is not interested in that.  I'd show him stuff but that's about it.  And he's the type that walks away from the register when it's time to pay.  That's where a giant chunk of the debt came from so technically both of us but I'm the one that chose what to buy I guess.  Other than the other debt is I would get carried away for some showers that I hosted so that added to it.

Once I enrolled in the program all cards were cut off so we live only on our paycheck and I'm starting to get better at managing the day to day.

That seems like a burden you shouldn't have to carry alone.  How long until it's all paid off?  

CrawltheWarriorKing

Iblamethebeer:

CrawltheWarriorKing:

JellyBellyStar:

CrawltheWarriorKing:

My husband has no idea the amount of debt we're really in or that I'm in a credit counseling program.

I handle all the finances, he has no interest in it and doesn't even have a log in for our checking account.  He only has 1 credit card that has a $0 balance (I paid it off).  Everything debt related is in my name.  We did a lot of work on the house when we moved in but he doesn't know how much it really costs adding that to how irresponsible I was with money, got me/us where I am.   

But I am working really really hard to pay it off - that's why I enrolled in the program.

This is a huge secret/burden that you are carrying.  Are you both responsible or just you?   

Tricky question. I handled all the contruction/redecorating of the house he really is not interested in that.  I'd show him stuff but that's about it.  And he's the type that walks away from the register when it's time to pay.  That's where a giant chunk of the debt came from so technically both of us but I'm the one that chose what to buy I guess.  Other than the other debt is I would get carried away for some showers that I hosted so that added to it.

Once I enrolled in the program all cards were cut off so we live only on our paycheck and I'm starting to get better at managing the day to day.

That seems like a burden you shouldn't have to carry alone.  How long until it's all paid off?  

I think it would be more of a burden if he knew about it and got involved.  He doesn't have access to anything and I pay every.single.bill.  I feel bad (dishonest in a way) that he doesn't know, but it would stress me out more.  Like when I say towards the end of the month, that we need to watch our spending until next check, he freaks out.  I ask him if he wants me to go through each bill/charge etc. that we had during the previous weeks to get us to the point where we shouldn't go out to eat the next few days...that usually shuts him up. We're both guilty of overspending, I just see it in our accounts more than he does. 

Assuming everything goes according to plan in less than 3 years it will be paid off.  I'm not just paying the minimum that the agency requires, I've added an extra $200 a month for the higher interest card and once that one is done moving it to the next one etc.  I'm just sure I can do that once the kids start school in August - don't know what kind of expenses we'll have outside of tuition and lunch, so we'll see.

laurakaz13

mexicolombiana:

michaelaskedlauren:

DH takes this TTC thing very seriously. We have DTD every.single.night for the past week and a half and I am exhausted.

I cannot wait for Saturday night when I will be at my parents house and far away from DH's penis.

Ha ha.  Except the opposite was true when we were TTC w/DD#1.  I MADE him have s e x with me every night while ovulation whether he liked it or not.  He felt like he was being used for his p e n i s.  And he was.  

LOL!  Love both of these posts.