Would you let your DH..

crene84 · June 2013

DH's grandma is very ill and he's thinking about flying to Louisiana to go be with the family. As much as it would be good if I could go, I am super sick with this pregnancy..still...and can't imagine flying nor being away from home. DH asked if I would be okay with him taking DD. In some ways, it might be a nice break for me..but I am not sure if I will go nuts, worrying about if he's keeping her on schedule and missing her too much. Would you be okay with your DH taking your LO? I am not sure how long he'll be gone..less than a week I'm sure..

gingerfamily · June 2013

Yes, I'd be okay with it. He's her dad and has every right to take her. If she gets off schedule - you can work on getting her back on when she gets back.

redneckmomma25 · June 2013

I understand your hesitation. But if he is offering, then take it. If will be great for the family and some rest for you. Babies are pretty resilient. I'm sure she will bounce right back on schedule

icedcoffeeluv · June 2013

I would have a hard time making this decision. The only reason I would have a hard time with it is because I'm not sure I could go that long being away from them (a night or two I would be fine but longer than that I would have a hard time with).

I definitely would trust DH to take them and while I'm sure they would end up off schedule a bit I wouldn't really worry about that aspect of it. I only am having a hard time with being away from them in this scenario.

thebanich · June 2013

Is he used to caring for her for long periods of time? Does he help with night time routine?

I would hesitate with my DH because he just doesn't understand DS's cues and he sleeps like the dead so he rarely hears him cry.

Mom2Mack1 · June 2013

That sounds amazing!! I'd let DH take LO. I would miss them after a day or two though!

1fish2fish · June 2013

Definitely. I would welcome the time alone!

jchasmc09 · June 2013

I would absolutely have DH take her. It would be hard for you, yes, but also be a nice break. Also, it would probably mean a lot to his family, and your DD would bring some welcomed joy in an otherwise very sad situation.

MomtobeNJ · June 2013

Banich4eva:
Is he used to caring for her for long periods of time? Does he help with night time routine?

This would be the deciding factor for me, as well. Now that DD is a little older and her schedule is somewhat regular (or at least, more manageable), DH is great with her and I would not hesitate at all. Early on, when she was up 4 - 5 times a night or we couldn't decipher her cues and why she was fussy, he was a little more reserved around her.

Of course you'll miss her! But a break might be nice too, especially if you're not feeling well.

Holly_1007 · June 2013

well aside from the fact that I BF, DH has never cared for either of the kids as babies long term. I would let him take my toddler in a heartbeat, but probably not the baby. Colby doesn't do well sleeping out of the house anyway and he would just end up cranky and overstimulated. So in my personal situation, no. But every family and baby is different. If she adapts to new surroundings well, and he is comfortable caring for her on his own then absolutely!

AlinnJo · June 2013

If she sleeps well at night and adjusts easily, then yes I would let my H take LO. My LO nurses a lot at night so she wouldn't go without me!

crene84 · June 2013

DH is great with her and she absolutely adores him. He has always helped a lot. But he's much more laid back with her so I not only worry about her schedule, but is she eating all her bottles, getting enough sleep..or is he just taking her all over the place seeing family and such. I know regardless, she'll be fine..but I've never spent even 1 night away from her, so it'll be a new experience for me.

BeebopandBuddy · June 2013

crene84:
DH is great with her and she absolutely adores him. He has always helped a lot. But he's much more laid back with her so I not only worry about her schedule, but is she eating all her bottles, getting enough sleep..or is he just taking her all over the place seeing family and such. I know regardless, she'll be fine..but I've never spent even 1 night away from her, so it'll be a new experience for me.

In this case I would absolutely be comfortable with it.

MRoxy0628 · June 2013

AlinnJo:
My LO nurses a lot at night so she wouldn't go without me!

This is the same for me, but even if that wasn't the case, I wouldn't be comfortable with it.

That said, I think it's entirely up to your family to decide if it's right for you. Do what you're comfortable with!

Stasi · June 2013

I wouldn't hesitate for a second, especially since you're feeling ill (congrats on the pregnancy and my apologizes for it being rough, hope it clears up soon!).

This is a great opportunity for him to bound with your LO and get to know how to take care of her all by himself. Sometimes the very best way for that to happen is when the parent that does the lion's share of the work isn't hovering over the other

jbBeans · June 2013

delaine0821:
crene84:
DH is great with her and she absolutely adores him.  He has always helped a lot. But he's much more laid back with her so I not only worry about her schedule, but is she eating all her bottles, getting enough sleep..or is he just taking her all over the place seeing family and such.  I know regardless, she'll be fine..but I've never spent even 1 night away from her, so it'll be a new experience for me.
In this case I would absolutely be comfortable with it. 

I agree! It'll be a nice break for you. Sure, she might get off schedule and your H might do some things differently, but it sounds like he knows what he's doing!

Hyaline · June 2013

Would I let him? Heck, I'd bake him a cake if he took DD for a weekend! Yes, I would miss her, but for me, at this point, a break would be a really good thing for me and a great thing for DH in terms of getting to spend real one on one time with his daughter.

As for keeping her on schedule--a) they're travelling, that's not going to happen anyway and b) kinda his problem and not really yours, you know? Babies are resilient, she'll be fine, and he's the one who will have to deal with crankiness.

I would absolutely say to take her, too, as it sounds like it might mean a lot to family (grandma especially) to see the baby.