Not what I want to hear

schulme2

When I was in the NICU, one of the nurses said to me "wow! You look great! You would hardly know you were ever pregnant!" I wanted to say "Because I was hardly pregnant!!" I only got to be pregnant for 25 weeks and I would give ANYTHING to still look super pregnant because I should still be super pregnant! It just kind of felt like a slap in the face that my babies came way too early and I don't get to be pregnant anymore.

Sorry, just had to vent!

paradebegone

I understand that totally. Yesterday, I saw a pregnant woman wearing a maternity dress that I never got a chance to wear and I immediately thought... what I would do to still be pregnant right now.

punky917

Geez, you would think a NICU nurse would know better than to say something that dumb and hurtful!

Brummy14

Yeah, I get this ALL THE TIME. It's the "OMG, you'd never know you had twins!!" I know they mean it from a good place, but ugh.

I usually just say, yeah, that's what happens when you birth the equivalent of what would be considered a small FT baby. 

CNYBride05

That's truly awful . I know people mean well, but still!  ((Hugs))

thishappyhouse

I know the feeling  I got alot of that in the NICU and from friends/family.  I knew they were just being complimentary but it still stings.  hugs