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Need a Mans suggestion on how to reconnect to my hubby

GrantHensonGrantHenson member
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Hello Dads

  So up until now my baby has not slept through the night and so we did not have much time for just us.  Now we have the baby sleeping through the night and it seems like we just do not know what it is that we want to do and or how to reconnect.

  I still have a fairly low sex drive and the two of us never seem to be in the mood at the same time so that is a part of it.

  What do I do

 

 

 

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Re: Need a Mans suggestion on how to reconnect to my hubby

  • LuckyDadLuckyDad member

    This actually might be a question best aimed at other ladies.

    I've heard for a lot of women, "forcing" themselves to have sex can work. I've heard it compared to the gym: sometimes you don't really feel like going, but you're normally glad you went after you do it.

     Otherwise, I guess date nights? Watch shows/movies together? Schedule times to just sit down and talk about fun things (not just the baby/finances/housework)? 

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  • PrimePrime member

    I've seen the same responses about just pushing through it from women on these boards.

    Can you get someone to watch the baby for a couple hours so you guys can just focus on each other?


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  • ehnastoehnasto member

    I'm a lurking MTB but I agree with the guys who posted.

    Sometimes "forcing" myself to do it helps. Also for me if we can be silly together it helps me relax and be more open to sex.

    For a while DH and I were never in the mood at the same time so we set up a little schedule. Every Tuesday (the day doesn't matter) we would make time to hang out together (where we would do something besides sit next to each other on the couch), talk and have sex. It helped us kind of get back into the swing of things. It also helped that we both sat down and talked about how we were feeling and how we were effected by the other one's actions.

    I hope this helps... good luck

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  • WulfgarWulfgar member

    Are you talking about reconnecting as a couple or getting back into the sex part of the marriage? My wife had a bad tear from giving birth so I went most of the first year without a lot of sex. My wife and I still were able to stay connected in other ways.

     Now that our LO is a toddler, we are having a harder time finding couple time.  We are planning on starting date nights again.

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  • Kentuckyboy76Kentuckyboy76

    The wife hasnt had her baby yet but she is to the point moving in general is pretty much not fun.

     We talked it over and a good way for us to connect was to take a bath and talk about our favorite memories, splash each other and just be silly in general.

     I would suggest like the others have, just put yourself in an easy situation to talk about and relax in whatever way helps you.

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  • SmootchySmootchy member

    Eeek @ "forcing" themselves to have sex. 

    IDK, that doesn't sit well...

    If you're talking about needing to connect physically, seriously, lube & foreplay

    If you want to connect otherwise, talking, movies, date night...

     

    (ok. back to my own board now...)  

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