ideal or nightmare schedule?

cnderella83

my current work schedule is 1pm-8pm mon-thurs and a few hours on sat. and sun. off fridays. H gets home at 5pm- so we would only need a sitter/care for 4 hours aday as I work 5 mins. form work. however- i will miss dinner and bedtime 4 nights a week. but would be home for most of the day.

H and I are debating my work schedule as we are ttc. i work for a school like organization and really love my job and i carry the benefits so leaving just isn't an option for me:)

any thoughts from moms out there?

gingerfamily

I'm confused.  If leaving isn't an option is there another option? 

Yes, you'd miss bed and dinner but you'd get to get him/her out of bed and do breakfast/lunch. 

 

cnderella83

sorry- i wasn't clearer! i could ask to change my schedule to 10 to 5 but now that adds 7 hours of child care a day. i guess i'm having guilty feelings about not being there at night and was wondering if other moms feel the same or if the child doesn't even notice.

DaisyJanie

I'm sure it won't matter for your child, you'll still see him/her in the morning. I'd be concerned about never seeing my DH, but I guess you already work that schedule so you know how it is. You'd want to find out how much money you'd save on a half-day schedule, at our daycare the half day isn't really that much better than the full-day, and they don't have an afternoon-only option. Those are the reasons we didn't have my DH switch to a later schedule, which he was considering when our LO was born.

jf198400

I think it might be challenging if you are planning to BF. Either way LO will have to take bottles but I always found my kids rejected bottles more at bedtime, but that may be because it wasn't part of their normal routine. I think you may not see much savings on DC with that PT schedule. It also might be challenging for your DH on his own in the evening. I think it's doable but personally I'd prefer the daytime schedule.

Iblamethebeer

This doesn't sound bad to me at all.  You have all morning with LO, DH gets evening time, and once you're out of the true "infant" stage you can probably give him an 8:15 bedtime so you can sneak in a last hug before bed.

Then you and DH still have most of the evening together, and you eat dinner together on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays.

Would DH's schedule allow for "family breakfast" rather than family dinner?

The only thing to consider is whether the way you're calculating childcare costs (i.e. per hour) is really accurate.  It may well be that the cost of 4 hours/day of a nanny is more than 8 or 9 hours per day of daycare.

shannm

I would change to 10 to 5 because I would want to be together as a family at night.

JWSchwarz

I would do 10-5 because DS naps from 11-2. And I personally love mornings and evenings best. Also babies tend to get cranky in the evening and DH might have a hard time with that. Especially if he is just getting home from work himself.